Situation - You are observing BULLYING

The Bully can make it easy for you to pick their pattern

We are talking here about someone who uses bully-boy tactics. They are in 'destructive or toxic mode'. You disapprove of them because they use rough and aggressive methods.
Bullies hurt others either physically, mentally or emotionally. They can ruin a persons life, just to make themselves feel better. This site is of the view that it is nigh on impossible to 'stop bullying' despite only 15% of the population are 'bullies' - per the Disc classification.

There is one clear pattern here that is the full time bully. And one who wants to fight straight away. Can you pick them?

There are 9 Different Types of Bullies and we match them to the patterns on this page.
Type 1 - Physical Bully
As the name suggests, this bully is all about strength and brute force. They are not likely to have the intellectual nous to be able to bully their victims. Consequently, they are likely to use muscle power to do the bullying.
Type 2 - Passive-Aggressive Bully
Some bullies are not in your face and violent in a physical way. Yet they can cause just as much harm by their actions. These types of bullies use manipulative behaviour to confuse people into thinking their reactions are so far off base that they are crazy (aka 'gaslighting'). This includes sending mixed messages, giving the silent treatment, sulking or blaming you for their problems.
Type 3 - Blunt Bully
Unlike the passive-aggressive bully, the blunt bully does not do anything in an ambiguous manner. Their words are weapons of war.
Type 4 - Gossip Bully
While sticks and stones might not break any bones, gossip behind people’s backs can ruin lives. This is a particularly insidious type of bully. The method includes spreading malicious rumours or untruths about another person.
Type 5 - Cyber Bully
This type of bully is relatively new but no less dangerous or traumatic. Most people have access to the Internet and that is what makes cyberbullying so damaging; it never stops. Trolling or keyboard warriors might be new terms but the harm they can do should not be underestimated.
Type 6 - Bystander Bully
Bystanders have the potential to make a positive difference in a bullying situation by becoming an upstander. An upstander is someone who sees what happens and intervenes, interrupts or speaks up to stop the bullying.
This site pays tribute to the Melbourne lawyer and former University Blacks player, Brendan Keilar, who was killed when he became involved in going to someone's aid in 2007. Bystanding may be the safest option depending on the circumstances. The bully is actually the person acting in an unacceptable manner. That is why the highly regarded Brendan went in to assist and lost his life.
Type 7 - Workplace Bully
The workplace bully is becoming more and more commonplace. It often done by those who abuse their authority and positions of power to undermine co-workers. It is important to remember that we spend an awful lot of time at work so the effects of bullying at work can have devastating consequences. Despite the law being on the side of the victim, the CLM is still alive and well. The CLM, the Career Limiting Move, is when the complainer has their career destroyed by identifying the bully, who is the one who has mede the unwanted sexual advance or equivalent.
Type 8 - Social Climber Bully
This may be when popular folk are more likely to bully their peers, rather than troubled employees or students. In school, students near the top of the social hierarchy at school are more likely to bully other students. The more kids care about being popular, the more aggressive they are.
Type 9 - The Non Bully

Hidden Causes behind the Different Types of Bullies and Their Behaviour.
Bullying is a complex issue. As such, there are many different reasons why a person would resort to this sort of behaviour.
The bully had a difficult home life.
They suffered significant trauma in their life.
The bully has been bullied before and they are repeating this behaviour to make themselves feel better.
They are attention-seeking and know no other way of focusing it on themselves.
They have low self-esteem and use bullying to bolster their own confidence.
The bully belongs to a group and does not want to feel like an outsider.
They had limited access to education.
They want to be popular with their peers.

Bullying Personalities - workplace including Sports Clubs, Owner's Corporations, Volunteer groups etc. Anywhere where there are bosses, workers and customers.

Type A - The Screaming Mimi. This is the most easily recognizable type of workplace bully. Screaming Mimis are loud and obnoxious, and their abusive behaviour is meant to berate and humiliate people. They thrive on the notion that others fear them.

Type B - The Two-Headed Snake. To a co-worker’s face, this employee acts like a trusted friend or colleague. However, when the co-worker is out of earshot, this person will destroy his colleague’s reputation, stab him in the back and even take credit for his work.

Type C - The Constant Critic. This bully’s goal is to dismantle other people’s confidence through constant – and often unwarranted – criticism. A critic will look for any possible flaw in someone’s work and labours tirelessly to kill that person’s credibility. Impeccable work? No problem: This type of bully isn’t above falsifying documents or creating evidence to make others look bad.

Type D -The Gatekeeper. Every office has at least one employee who gets off on wielding his or her power over others – regardless of whether that power is real or perceived. Gatekeepers deny people the tools they need – whether it’s resources, time or information – to do their jobs efficiently.

Type E - The Attention Seeker. This type of bully wants to be the centre of the action at all times. They will try to get on their superior’s good side through consistent flattery and even come on as kind and helpful to their peers – especially the newer employees. However, if co-workers do not provide the right amount of attention, these bullies can quickly turn on them. Attention seekers are often overly dramatic and relate everything to something that’s going wrong in their own lives to garner sympathy and control. These bullies also have a tendency to coax personal info out of new employees – only to use it against them later.

Type F - The Wannabe. This is an employee who sees himself or herself as absolutely indispensable and expects recognition for everything. But Wannabes are not usually very good at their jobs. To compensate, these bullies spend a majority of their time watching more competent workers and looking for areas of skilled workers’ performance to complain about. Wannabes will demand that everything is done their way – even when there are better ways of doing things. Because they are automatically opposed to others’ ideas, they will do everything in their power to prevent changes to their work processes.

Type G - The Guru. Generally, there is nothing wrong with this bully’s work performance. In fact, it is not unusual for a Guru to be considered an expert in his or her own niche area. What these bullies offer in technical skill, however, they severely lack in emotional maturity. Gurus see themselves as being superior to their co-workers. As a result, they do not consider how their actions will affect others, are not able to fathom the possibility that they can be wrong and do not accept responsibility for their own actions. In addition, because these bullies feel as though they’re “above it all,” they do not always feel compelled to follow the same rules as everybody else.

Type H - The Sociopath. Intelligent, well-spoken, charming and charismatic, sociopaths are the most destructive bullies of all. Reason: They have absolutely no empathy for others, yet they are experts at manipulating the emotions of others in order to get what they want. These bullies often rise to positions of power within the company, which makes them extremely dangerous. Sociopaths tend to surround themselves with a circle of lackeys who are willing to do their dirty work in exchange for moving up the ranks with them.

While spotting a bully is reasonably easy, you will most likely need assistance :-) This website might tell you what but it will not tell you how. Here is how all Disc types react - all sixteen patterns - match the behaviour you are observing.

Conducted and composed by Modern Maven Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update March 14, 2022

 

1. Is the bully the Director - ESTJ?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Director is dictatorial, aggressive and controlling.
They believe that they know what’s best for everyone, and that it's 'my way or the highway'.
They are toxic in the sense that they are your classic jerk, who does not have the brain to think on their own. This is most common among men and they often tend to be “less evolved” in the sense they want to dominate others especially their spouse or partner. Many cannot stand their tribalistic, ignorant and outdated view of the world, which they try to superimpose onto others.

Likely Bully Type: Type 3 - Blunt Bully.

Bully Personality: Type B - The Two-Headed Snake.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Sir, you are in deep trouble!

Narrative Tacks™: Most of them are not actually self-righteous or sanctimonious. If they are, it is only toward their family members - this is mostly out of insecurity rather than a firm belief that they have made all the right choices. When faced with someone close to them making different choices than they did, they worry that perhaps they themselves should have taken a different route in life. Out of the Guardians (others being the Objective Thinker, Appraiser and Practitioner) they are probably the worst at teamwork.

Action Tacks™: Walks triumphantly away as if discovered a jackpot. Reports the bully to the authorities. Becomes president of a newly formed anti-bully committee. Commands an army of Objective Thinkers and polices the corridors. Employees / students feel safe and are generally open about the policing force. Becomes the model student. Feels incredibly satisfied once the bully is arrested or brought to justice.

Intimidation Tacks™: They push people to take responsibility for their lives and, in a world where excuses run rampant, they do not take the bait. They challenge people to do their part and to live with truth and purpose. They make people realize they are capable of more than they realized – they break down their goals into step-by-step plans and then pull them off their backs and push them towards action. They have no patience for complaining, procrastination and laziness. They intimidate people because they will challenge them to do more and become more than what they currently are.

 

2. Is the bully the Developer - ENTJ?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Developer is dominating, aggressive and quick-tempered.
Domination is a game to them, and they are increasingly power hungry as they become more and more unhealthy.

Likely Bully Type: Type 3 - Blunt Bully.

Bully Personality: Type B - The Two-Headed Snake.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Piss Off.

Narrative Tacks™: They are usually not Machiavellian. Their strong sense of individualism often extends to others (which makes them respectful of others' uniqueness) and they use their brave and outspoken nature to amplify others' voices who may be going unheard. They are often the "bully's bully" - if they see someone picking on someone who is in no place to fight back, you can bet they will not hesitate to put that person in their place. They may seem tireless and unsinkable, but when they fail to meet their own standards, they often need to temporarily withdraw from their endeavour in order to regroup.

Action Tacks™: Likely to be the bully as thrives on confrontation. If not the bully, on this rare occasion, is nevertheless still likely to tell another bully to fcuk off. Alternatively, is likely to fight the bully and win and therefore take their place. If a Developer sees a person bullying another person is likely to step up and tell the bully to pick on someone their own size. This bully might not back off and the Developer then defeats the bully with one uppercut, physical or oral. The victim thanks the Developer but is then given a lecture and set of instructions about what should and should not be done. This is the classic full time bully. This is the behaviour pattern the anti bullying activists must target.

Intimidation Tacks™: Confident and visionary, they have no patience for trivial activities or procrastination. They intimidate people with boldness, insight and a bully boy attitude. There is a feeling that they could win any argument, see past any excuse or point out any inefficiencies that are keeping someone from their goals. Some people enjoy this – they want to be challenged. But other individuals would rather stay in their comfort zone, getting by rather than achieving. These people are intimidated because they will remind them of how much they could do if they stopped making excuses and getting in their own way.

 

3. Is the bully the Results - ESTP?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Results seek thrills, opportunities and pleasure at the expense of anyone who gets in their way.
Can be reckless, dangerously impulsive and self-indulgent.
They often lack moral, ethics, principles, empathy as well as brain. Can be narcissistic traits in that they also seem to suffer from a false sense of grandiose self (that is mostly in their head).

Likely Bully Type: Type 1 - Physical Bully.

Bully Personality: Type B - The Two-Headed Snake.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Oh? You wanna fight, huh?

Narrative Tacks™: Contrary to popular belief, they do value book-smarts and often enjoy conversing with the Developer, Enhancer, Inspirational and Perfectionist.They may not grasp the concepts as easily, nor apply them as responsibly, but they find philosophical topics stimulating - another piece of equipment on life's big playground. While they are naturally persuasive people, they are often disinterested in the corporate and political spheres where they could potentially thrive - ladder-climbing within organizations does not appeal to them (in fact, many cringe at the very idea). Because of this, they often do not pursue these career tracks despite their high level of potential for success in them. There are some notable exceptions though.

Action Tacks™: The bully is impressed. The bully either recruits the Results person or the Results person beats up the bully and takes his place. In that case, the Results person shouts and fights the bully in the corridor. Attracts attention. The Results person's charisma wins the crowd until the Objective Thinker or Director inform the police who arrests both fighters.

Intimidation Tacks™: Their sheer confidence and impulsive bravery make them intimidating to many. There is no challenge too steep that they will not face head-on. Risk and uncertainty does not scare the Results. They would rather speak truth than tiptoe around other people’s feelings. Their courageous nature and logical directness can be dizzying to more timid or safety-seeking types. They will challenge others to embrace adventure, to face fear and to become unshackled from distractions and excuses. That reality can be spine-chilling (but exciting) for many to face. And totally off-putting for some.

 

4. Is the bully the Inspirational - ENTP?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Inspirational is arrogant, dishonest and self-centered.
Should you observe anyone rejecting an idea the Inspirational has come up with, expect that the Inspirational may decide to discriminate, mock or bully this same person.

Likely Bully Type: Type 7 - Workplace Bully.

Bully Personality: Type H - The Sociopath.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: You are kidding? I thought...

Narrative Tacks™: The main reason they appear "non-committal" is because they are often actually extremely committed to someone or something that prevents them from pursuing new possibilities far enough or for long enough to gain anything from them. Imagine a fish that struggles to swim off in a variety of directions only to be reeled back in again and again, not even realizing that it is attached to a hook. They are probably the least self-aware of all intuitive types. Contrary to popular belief, they are not reckless. They may participate in reckless activities, but they are extremely cautious while doing so.

Action Tacks™: Argues with the bully and/or becomes a machine gun of a million comebacks and twists. Likely to be throat-punched by the bully so the bully shuts up the Inspirational. Likely to get hospitalised. Likely to confront the bully next time and bring forth a storm of arguments, insults and threats. The bully will either tear up or throat-punch the Inspirational again.

Intimidation Tacks™: Likes to flip tradition on its head and show people new ways of seeing the world around them. They are an iconoclast, a rebel and someone who does not mind debating their views with precision and accuracy. The fact that they can face the void of the unknown and see nothing but possibilities can frighten people. Others are afraid of what they might open their mind to and what some of the other person's cherished viewpoints might be left behind in the process.

 

5. Is the bully the Persuader - ENFJ?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Persuader is dramatic, overbearing and manipulative.
The Persuader can seem incredibly kind and exuberant in person and then ridicule and mock you to others behind your back. You should watch out for these stories.

Likely Bully Type: Type 4 - Gossip Bully.

Bully Personality: Type H - The Sociopath.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Hey! (Calls to stranger) Hey you! (Calls to another stranger) You come here! (Calls to yet another stranger).

Narrative Tacks™: They tend to suffer from a poorer self-image than the Developer, Director and Appraiser. While their perpetual concern for others may look like the picture of responsibility, it can also be a means for them to avoid dealing with their own problems. This hyper-altruistic tendency coupled with a weaker Sensing function can lead to their life falling into severe disarray and because of their Extraverted feeling image-focus, they tend to be very good at hiding it. They are quite prone to vices - contrary to the Goody Two Shoes picture painted of them in most Oxor descriptions.

Action Tacks™: People begin blocking the area and an overwhelming majority is attracted by the Persuader thereby placing the bully and his cronies in the minority. Cries out "Check this guy out, he’s trying to make a hassle out of things. He’s trying to bully people. He shouldn’t. It’s not fair. Show him its not fair." People begin pointing at the bully and insults begin spewing. The bully concedes. Later, the Persuader begins giving speeches at meetings or gatherings and starts an anti-bullying campaign.

Intimidation Tacks™: “Intimidating” is one of the last words most people would use to describe them. Empathic and insightful, they attempt to put people at ease in their presence. That said, the same things that comfort some can be nerve-wracking for others. Others find themselves intimidated by what the Persuader sees in them. Others know that just being in their presence opens them up to their perceptive insight and interfering nature. They might see something in others – some gift or potential that they try to motivate others towards. They might sense feelings that others are trying to keep hidden. They emotionally X-ray people and sometimes this can be a scary experience for those who want to stay hidden.

 

6. Is the bully the Appraiser - ESFJ

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Appraiser is manipulative, controlling and prone to gossip.
The Appraiser will berate anyone who does not follow “the rules”, even if those rules are corrupt.

Likely Bully Type: Type 4 - Gossip Bully.

Bully Personality: Type E - The Attention Seeker.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Watch your filthy mouth!

Narrative Tacks™: While they are usually kind-hearted and well-intended, they are often not warm and fuzzy. This is because they often try to love people before they learn to like them. They are the biggest nerds ahead of the Director, Results and Counselor often gravitating towards Enlightenment Era ideals. They also make great pranksters, because they are clever and love to get reactions from people.

Action Tacks™: Gets laughed at by the bully. Reports the incident to anti-bullying committee. Denounces the bully. Joins the Persuader’s anti-bullying campaign as well. Sides with and becomes supporter of any anti-bullying establishment / initiative.

Intimidation Tacks™: They seem to know the ins and outs of every social sphere that is entered. Almost instantly they guess who is connected to whom, who is up whom for the rent, which rivalries are in place, which friends are loyal and who needs what. They “get” people. They understand what people enjoy and perceive the tiny details that influence others. Some people can find this sort of perceptiveness intimidating. The other person might go to a party wanting to blend into the background and, within minutes of meeting the Appraiser, have been invited to dinner, introduced to five people and inadvertently involved in a heated involvement in the party game 'Apples to Apples'. But with time, the other person realizes that they are actually enjoying themselves and there was not anything to be scared of after all.

 

7. Is the bully the Promoter - ENFP?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Promoter is manipulative, self-absorbed and disloyal.
The Promoter is so sure of their own vision that they lash out at anyone who opposes them or questions their abilities.

Likely Bully Type: Type 3 - Blunt Bully.

Bully Personality: Type A - The Screaming Mimi.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: What? Oh! You’re talking to me? Hi!

Narrative Tacks™: They may be extraverts, but they are often not outgoing in some ways because their Introverted Feeling compels them not to over-extend themselves emotionally. Their extraversion manifests more in exploration of various interests and gathering information from outside the self, interpreting it in terms of the connections between different pieces of information. While they almost always have unconventional senses of humoor, they are not necessarily "goofballs" - they take their moral causes, values, and social relationships very seriously and one can readily observe this intensity any time these topics are brought to their attention.

Action Tacks™: Simultaneously thinks about the plan to go out to movies with Enhancers on Friday. Oh, and also that thing the Objective Thinker said about the new rules. Oh, and also that interesting quantum physics thing the Perfectionist mentioned, I must check it out sometime. Oh wait, is that a butterfly?

Intimidation Tacks™: They intimidate people by questioning the traditions and societal norms in which so many find comfort. They are willing to step outside-the-box and see things from angles and perspectives that nobody imagined before – and that can feel scary for a lot of people. The fact that they shake up their world view and question long-standing norms and viewpoints can be terrifying to some people. It is as if they are removing the fences that guard them from the edge of a cliff and saying, “Hey! Look at this view now!” but it is all too dizzying and steep for them.

 

8. Is the bully the Counselor - ESFP

Likely to bully others: No. When toxic, the Counselor seeks attention and sensation at all costs as they are impulsive, vain and self-absorbed. The Counselor will jump from one exciting thrill to another without concern for the people they affect along the way.

Likely Bully Type: Type 9 - The Non Bully.

Bully Personality: Type E - The Attention Seeker.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Oh? Now I see why your mother...

Action Tacks™: The Counselor embarks with a tirade of insults with very, very radical head and hand movements and facial gestures. Bully intimidated or impressed. The Counselor shrugs it off. Goes shopping later.

Intimidation Tacks™: They are enthusiastic, perceptive and impulsive. They intimidate people by pushing them towards possibility. They challenge people to step outside of their comfort zone and get into the real business of living life. When someone is in their presence there is a sense that they will reveal opportunities and adventures that might scare and inspire the other person. They will challenge individuals to take those leaps, get up on those stages or buy those airline tickets to far-off destinations. They make people aware that they can take life by the horns and risk everything to feel the intoxicating rush of freedom and beauty that life can give. Not everyone wants this treatment.

 

9. Is the bully the Specialist - ISFP

Likely to bully others: No. When toxic, the Specialist is self-serving, judgmental and indulgent.
The Specialist is not swayed by logical arguments or reasonable discussion and may decide to shut people out entirely if they can not gain complete approval.

Likely Bully Type: Type 9 - The Non Bully.

Bully Personality: Type F - The Wannabee.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Silence.

Narrative Tacks™: They are not necessarily snobs or hipsters. They know what they like, full stop. Whether their tastes are considered refined or eclectic by the rest of the world varies from one Specialist to another. They are not that shy - many are possessed of a brazen sense of humour (along with the Results, Achiever and Counselor) and they love to talk at length about their interests. They are also not as prone to spring at new opportunities or experiences as the Results, Achiever and Counselor - "I don't know, it doesn't sound like something I'd like" is a phrase commonly uttered by a Specialist.

Action Tacks™: Broods over incident for months to come. Hurt, but finds difficulty in expressing the hurt. Paints a expressive piece of artwork that alludes to the hurt. Composes music. Feels slightly better, but still hurt. A wood duck target for bullies.

Intimidation Tacks™: They are someone who is, by nature, a walking contradiction. They are idealistic yet realistic, amiable but no-nonsense, flexible but determined. They can intimidate people simply because others are not quite sure what to expect. There is a sense that they will perceive any efforts at manipulation and be too practical to fall for lies or fanciful stories. They might initially seem easy-going and relaxed and later show steely resolve about an unexpected cause or belief or become very defensive when facing change or being challenged. This series of contradictions can both excite and unnerve people.

 

10. Is the bully the Investigator - INFJ?

Likely to bully others: Maybe. When toxic, the Investigator is manipulative, scheming and self-righteous.
The Investigator uses people’s faults and shortcomings against them as blackmail. When faced with their wrongdoings, they may fall into self-pity or else shut people out of their life who do not show them complete approval. Although rarely toxic, some people may perceive the Investigator as such because they have high expectations for people. They may ask more than the other party offer but they do not mean to be harmful in any way. As the Investigator has complicated feelings and emotions, plus does not know to how to express them, they try to do so by being blunt and tactless. A toxic Investigator may not know they are being toxic so just let them know and they will immediately deny. They may feel really bad about it since they think it is not how they think that they are. If you are close to one, and vice versa, do talk to them in the sweetest way as possible. They will change little by little but do not point out their flaws constantly and be rude about it; just be patient and they will (may?) appreciate it.

Likely Bully Type: Type 2 - Passive-Aggressive Bully.

Bully Personality: Type D - The Gatekeeper.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Fcuk you! (or chosen expletive)

Narrative Tacks™: While their righteousness usually compels them to be open and honest, they can be surprisingly artful and manipulative due to their knack for knowing what people want (and do not want) to hear. They are masters at keeping their friends close and their enemies closer. While many are spiritual people, their aptitude for coming to conclusions with little to no evidence does not come from any sort of mystical source, but rather their constant subconscious analysis of small details that most others do not notice at all and which they themselves have difficulty pinning down specifically. They are the most cerebral ahead of the other Feeling types - Persuader, Promoter, Agent, Appraiser, Practitioner, Counselor and Specialist.

Action Tacks™: Questions the existential existence of humanity. Questions the nature of humans’ intentions, either for good or bad. Envisions a world without bullies, whether by means of peace or by means of mass murder. Discusses matter with an Enhancer but gets turned off by their mechanical heart. Searches for life’s meaning. Starts own cult having been motivated by the bullying incident.

Intimidation Tacks™: Although they are an introvert, they have a warmth, insight and empathy that can emotionally disarm people. This can be intimidating to some because there is a sense that sooner or later that the Investigator will be the audience for some of the other person's joys, fears and private life stories. They will understand the hidden motivations and implications that have led the other person to where they are at today. They can appear like an emotional detective – picking up clues and connections that have, until now, passed other people by. While some people love this, it can be equally unsettling to others.
They can also appear intimidating and tend to get suspicious when someone behaves abnormally and they will get angry if an Extraverted Feeling value of theirs, or an Introverted Thinking principle of theirs is crossed. Someone unnecessarily being a troll gets on their nerves. They will have an immediate reaction, but that will not be the end of it. Unhealthy, or normal, ones might use their Introverted Intuition and their Intraverted Thinking to plot for no good, but to vindicate themselves. The Investigator can be intimidating because of how effortlessly they can charm people and yet be calculating and not have noble intentions. The Rationals (2, 4, 15 and 16) plus 1, 3, 12 and 14 will tend to find the Investigator (and Agent) anger more scary, simply because they can veil their wrath with charisma or kindness.

 

11. Is the bully the Agent - INFP?

Likely to bully others: No. When toxic, the Agent is self-absorbed, self-righteous and wavers between being passive and extremely judgmental.
The Agent lives in fantasy land and may become increasingly harsh and condemning of people in their lives; obsessed with their own emotions and fantasies may shun or berate anyone who tries to find a way into their heart.

Likely Bully Type: Type 9 - The Non Bully.

Bully Personality: Type F - The Wannabee.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: How dare you!

Narrative Tacks™: Often regarded as frivolous daydreamers, they can be shockingly practical, readily seeing the value of using time and resources wisely. They often have no time for things they see as irrelevant to their causes, projects or values. In a society where behaviour exhibited by the Persuader, Director, Appraiser, Developer is maybe seen as the norm, this might look like someone acting "too cool for school". In reality, the Agent is as busy as they are. The only difference is that the source of motivation is intrinsic and the projects are usually personal. They are also not as pleasant as many other sites paint them. Oxor is pretty harsh. Many Agents are harshly judgmental towards people and things they see as transgressing against their values. Though they may not always speak up about it, they will frequently shun those who do not meet their standards without a second thought or a closer examination.

Action Tacks™: Secretly being torn up inside and wishing the world was a better place. And wishing the same circumstances would not befall another poor soul. Does nothing to stop the proliferation of bullies.

Intimidation Tacks™: They are keenly aware of the emotional distance between themselves and others. In a one-on-one situation they listen and observe with intense empathy and awareness. However, this attentiveness can be off-putting to some because, beneath their quiet demeanour, it is clear that they are perceptive of intentions and authenticity levels. One gets the feeling when others are talking with them that none of their lies or cover-ups will pass beneath the radar. Others feel “seen” – and, while some people may appreciate that, it can terrify others who have ulterior motives or wish to present themselves in a perfectly curated light.
They can also appear intimidating when they tend to lose their temper when their Intuitive Feeling morals are grossly violated. This will trigger inferior Extraverted Thinking and they will stand up to the violater. If they are unhealthy, or maybe normal, they will ferociously argue their point without considering other views. Their obstination to stick to their beliefs, especially if delusional, can be intimidating or scary. The Rationals (2, 4, 15 and 16) plus 1, 3, 12 and 14 will tend to find the Agent (and Investigator) anger more scary, simply because they can veil their wrath with charisma or kindness.

 

12. Is the bully the Achiever - ISTP?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Achiever is cold, self-destructive and indulgent.
The Achiever can be the perfect mercenary, using their hands-on skills to find wealth or sensory experience, even if it means destroying another life.

Likely Bully Type: Type 3 - Blunt Bully.

Bully Personality: Type D - The Gatekeeper.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Walk away, brother. Leave me alone. Do not mess with me.

Narrative Tacks™: They are usually much more caring than most narratives give them credit for, including Oxor. They have a deeply fraternal nature about them and they often use their trouble-shooting skills and practicality to give advice and assistance to their friends. While typically independent and solitary in the pursuit of their hobbies, they are usually not aloof in social situations and they have a knack for observational humour.

Action Tacks™: The bully does not back off. The Achiever breaks the bully’s arm, their knee dislocated, internal organs begin bleeding and is taken to hospital. The Achiever is denounced by the anti-bullying committee and disciplined. The Achiever shrugs it off.

Intimidation Tacks™: Capable and clever, they have a restless energy and intellectual prowess that sets them apart. There is an electricity behind their gaze; a certain sense of knowing paired with a readiness to respond. Nothing slips by them; they notice every flinch, every sideways glance and every effort someone takes to hide something. They intimidate people because, in a world full of distractions, they are paying attention and speaking truths that other people are too afraid to reveal.

 

13. Is the bully the Practitioner - ISFJ?

Likely to bully others: Yes. When toxic, the Practitioner believes everyone must instantly conform to the traditions and values they have accepted as their own. They may seem friendly at first, but underneath their soft-spoken demeanour they are manipulative and passive aggressive if you let them. However, The Practitioner hates conflict and will back off.
Expect the Practitioner to retreat into self-pity and self imposed guilt trips if challenged. But they are hard workers, relentless in their sense of duty, even if that duty is to a corrupt power structure, societal construct or maintenance of clear deficiencies in the status quo.

Likely Bully Type: Type 2 - Passive-Aggressive Bully.

Bully Personality: Type C - The Constant Critic.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Sobs and leaves.

Narrative Tacks™: They are a lot more laid back than most descriptions will have you believe. This is because Practitioners, Directors, Objective Thinkers and Appraisers must have their noses to the grindstone 24/7. Yes, they take what they do very seriously, but they need an awful lot of downtime because they are highly sensitive to sensory and social input. They may have a tendency to give up on things they should persist on and persist in things they should give up on. They are more open-minded than they seem. While they are extremely cautious with strangers, they are usually willing to learn to understand others as they get to know them, regardless of their differences. They are also the most fantasy-prone of any Sensing type (those with S as the second letter), with a love for the body of knowledge, especially of a traditional, anecdotal, or popular nature, on a particular subject together with and literary analysis - it is a way for them to keep in touch with traditions.

Action Tacks™: Joins a committee. Becomes a volunteer counsellor for victims of bullying. Will forever remember the bully and all those poor souls hurt by them. But all the while sympathises with the bully’s internal turmoils and struggles.

Intimidation Tacks™: Gentle and generous, they initially may not seem intimidating to many. There is something beautiful about thei quiet, reflective nature. They lack the sharp edges that emotionally surround so many people and, that alone, can be disarming and surprising. People feel that by being with the Practitioner they will be motivated to be kinder, gentler and more self-aware. Without even realizing it they make people slow down and take notice of the little details in life that other have been overlooking. By their actions they can make individuals aware of their own self-seeking ways and that can be scary for some especially in their relentless pursuit of conflict avoidance.

 

14. Is the bully the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?

Likely to bully others: No. When toxic, the Objective Thinker exerts control over the outside world, makes it conform to their routine or set of principles suppresses people who they perceive as threats.
The Objective Thinker will be harsh, aloof and attentive to any detail or act of defiance that falls outside their established routine.

Likely Bully Type: Type 9 - The Non Bully.

Bully Personality: Type G - The Guru.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Err... that’s not very nice.

Narrative Tacks™: Sillier, softer and stranger than any profile would dare to mention and often more so than they themselves are aware of. They become so firmly set in their habits that they often fail to realize how idiosyncratic some of them are. They are quite vulnerable and can become depressed and anxious when they are faced with a difficult decision, more so than other pattern. This is because of their strong sense of accountability. They can also have a knack for puns and poignant descriptions, ahough most would never describe an Objective Thinker as 'poetic'.

Action Tacks™: Stares back at the bully and leaves. Reports bully to the authorities. Employer / school forms an anti-bully committee and the Objective Thinker becomes an avid member. The Objective Thinker patrols the halls. Silently. Feels incredibly satisfied once the bully is arrested or brought to justice.

Intimidation Tacks™: Thorough, systematic and sensible they are someone who takes their responsibilities seriously and expects others to do the same. They cannot stand it when people make excuses for bad behaviour or whinge and complain about the hand they have been dealt without taking action to alter the situation. Their serious, formal and hard-working demeanour can seem intimidating to the more scattered types, generally the High Is. The Objective Thinker believes in honour, responsibility and consistency and those who are morally ambiguous and irresponsible tend to feel exposed in their presence. Little do others know that underneath the stoic, serious demeanour there is a quirky, offbeat and affable side.

 

15. Is the bully the Perfectionist - INTP?

Likely to bully others: No. When toxic, the Perfectionist is haughty, careless and so absorbed in their own world and ideas that they ignore and neglect the people in their care.
The Perfectionist does not care what anyone else does with their lives as long as they are left to their own devices.
Can be red-pilled. They are toxic primarily because they use their abstract thinking to make up theories to justify their toxic view of the world that is more often just fanatical. Then, with their intellectual arrogance where these type thinks they are the greatest and smartest, will just write people off who try to correct them. This pattern especially are not always successful with women / partners early in life which makes them resentful. Some say mysogynistic men are likely to come from this pattern.

Likely Bully Type: Type 5 - Cyber Bully.

Bully Personality: Type G - The Guru.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Did you know that? However, that seems logically in-…/un-…; Would you please elaborate? I having as hard a time understanding as you are.

Narrative Tacks™: They care a great deal about what other people think of them and theirs - the 'socially awkward' stereotype comes from over-thinking the situation, rather than under-thinking it. They are not wishy-washy, they are just extremely skilled at picking their battles. They can argue a lot for its own sake, but it wears them out more than they let on. Out of all the Rationals (Perfectionist, Developer, Enhancer and Inspirational), they are probably the best team players. They may pretend not to care about gossip or gullible people but they often secretly find these things irresistible.

Action Tacks™: Likely to get punched in face. System error. Likely to seek Inspirational, Perfectionist, Developer or Enhancer to discuss bully eradication tactics or systems. Opens computer and absorbs information on-line. Reads books on psychology, self-defence, martial arts, classical mechanics and on planetary motions. Reads... what was the goal again?

Intimidation Tacks™: Their cool, detached demeanour can be intimidating to people who want to be able to easily “read” them. They are not easily de-coded and their independence, unpredictability and enigmatic demeanor can put some people on edge. They do not typically intend to intimidate people – in fact, they enjoy close, warm relationships. They just do not tend to spend a lot of time engaging in small talk, gossip or wearing emotions on their sleeve. This can make them hard to figure out – and the mystery can scare some people off.
They can also appear intimidating as they hate logical inconsistencies, about which they might get frustrated, when there is a bounty of them in a situation. They will try to be polite in correcting the other person, but their detest for such mistakes is often thinly veiled. If unhealthy, or just being normal, they will tend to be nitpickers. You will not hear the end of their taunts if you dare to make a mistake. They can be intimidating because they can be ignorant of everyone's feelings (including their own), and hurt everyone in the process of finding their version of 'truth’. The Idealists (5,7, 10 and 11) will find the Perfectionist (and Enhancer) more scary than the Investigator and Agent because they seem to not care about anyone's feelings; which is true!

 

16. Is the bully the Enhancer - INTJ?

Likely to bully others: Not physically. When toxic, the Enhancer is cold, arrogant and controlling. And is contemptuous and condescending to anyone who does not value their same vision or sense of logic.
The Enhancer will follow their vision for the future, but also follow their conscience and improve systems and the world.
Can be red-pilled. They are toxic primarily because they use their abstract thinking to make up theories to justify their toxic view of the world that is more often just fanatical. Then, with their intellectual arrogance where these type thinks they are the greatest and smartest, will just write people off who try to correct them. This pattern especially are not always successful with women / partners early in life which makes them resentful. Some say mysogynistic men are likely to come from this pattern.

Likely Bully Type: Type 2 - Passive-Aggressive Bully.

Bully Personality: Type G - The Guru.

Reaction to Bully Boy Tick Tacks™: Gives the Death Stare.

Narrative Tacks™: They value free will fiercely, but they are not that stubborn. If they learn the value of something they previously resisted, they can do a complete 180. Because of their tendency to analyze things for extended periods of time, this is something that can happen quite often. They are more aesthetically oriented than other Thinking types and they are often quite whimsical (though they may not always express it). While they can appear cold, they can usually be quickly defrosted by a cause or by something they relate to. They tend to be quite compassionate towards people and things that are misunderstood, urging others to look beyond their biases and at the facts and circumstances. While they are very independent in their thoughts, they usually do not mind (and can sometimes prefer) to assist and be assisted, due to their keen sense of where they and others fall short. But the other person must not in any way be mediocre.

Action Tacks™: Secretly plots the death of the bully boy's entire family in two years. Babies included. Bullies are not worth the Enhancer's time. However, Enhancers are secretly scarred forever and contempt for bullies potentially becomes a life motivation, giving a strong sense of justice. Likely to have a bully extermination plan with an honourable motive but containing very, very, unorthodox means. Will never, ever forgive or forget.

Intimidation Tacks™: They have an intense, perceptive nature that tends to make people feel disarmed and exposed. While the Persuader, Investigator, Appraiser and Practitioner will alter themselves for other people’s comfort – the Enhancer has an intense focus and directness that manifests itself in having totally no patience for such things. They also have no fear of pointing out flaws and inconvenient truths. This fearlessness can make some people intimidated because others do not want to have their plans or ideas de-bunked or altered in any way. That said, for people who are looking for insight, sincerity and strategic advice, the Enhancer is a welcome breath of fresh air.
They can also appear indtlidating as they hate inefficiency. Plus, they have some strong-set morals that they do not like being violated. Their Extraverted Sensing and Extraverted Thinking will give an immediate, blunt reaction. If the Enhancer is unhealthy, or just being normal, they might tend to seek revenge of some kind if it is warranted. They are plotters too in a similar fashion to the Investigator. The Enhancer can also be seen as intimidating or scary because of their blunt Extraverted Thinking combined with their intentionality behind everything they do. The Idealists (5,7, 10 and 11) will find the Enhancer (and Perfectionist) more scary than the Investigator and Agent because they seem to not care about anyone's feelings; which is true!

 

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