When someone does not know Disc
it is bog standard easy to fall into simple traps regarding hate. Until now.

How to make the 
							other person hate you.

Observing people easily causing hate is an Oxor pastime.

And how they react when they hate the other person.

And how some pairs may be compatible.

And what is each patterns Oxor Main Hate™.

You will most likely need assistance :-) This might tell you what but it will not tell you how.

Here are all sixteen patterns - all making simple misteaks.

You will be here, too!

Conducted and composed by Modern Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update April 15, 2021

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1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?

The Director is the Border Collie

Oxor Main Hate™: Inefficiency. If your group is going on a big trip, the Director is the one who emails everybody with travel arrangements; months in advance. If you and your co-workers are tackling a big project, the Director is the leader who makes sure the entire system achieves all goals and KPI on time. The Director hates inefficiency because they have such a great mind for figuring out the best way to sail the ship. But at the airport, which has nothing to do with ships, they will immediately notice why a line has a bottleneck or at the high priced café there in what order the proprietor needs to make each item on the menu to get it of the kitchen the fastest. While these insights make you a take-charge pattern, the Director would be well advised to recognize that it is taxing to dwell on inefficiency — the world is full of it — and taking the 'scenic route' can sometimes allow them to enjoy the experience more, rather than rush to the destination.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just shoot down all the Director's ideas. And you will be hated.

The Director likes to bring you into the world that they have built by asking you to go to places they like and try things that they enjoy. The Director will quickly grow frustrated if you continuously refuse to let them show you things they love.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "You are doing it all wrong."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

11 - The Agent. Their impracticality, lack of concern with the real world (in La La Land), deep concern for people’s feelings and even the feelings of inanimate objects do nothing but tick the Director off.

Why the Director will be hated by others:

The Director shoots down all the other person's ideas, particularly when done with disdain.

Why the Director will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, an Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Director may take a while to get used to and comfortable with the Enhancer’s unconventionality, but the relationship drastically improves once they do. "I may sometimes pick the Director as a friend on a limited and qualified basis only".

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2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?

The Developer is the German Shepherd

Oxor Main Hate™: Laziness. The Developer possesses intense drive. Of all the 16 patterns, they have the capacity to accomplish the most due to extreme willpower and seemingly boundless energy. Therefore, they have no patience for those without clear direction, drive and ambition. They do not 'get it' when others just stop moving forward (or are in reverse or stopped). The Developer should recognize that they have been blessed with special powers, allowing them to check boxes off any to-do list and climb the corporate ladder. The Developer cannot fathom why not everyone wants or needs obvious markers of achievement to be fulfilled. They would be well advised to inquire to see what actually fulfills those whom the Developer does not understand. Not only will those conversations fire them up (they love passionate people), but they will also obtain greater perspective on more intangible types of goals.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be a bully towards the Developer. And you will be hated.

The Developer is the bully and does not like being usurped in this role. They are unlikely to waste time getting into a conflict if they could just ignore you, but they will immediately stop ignoring you if they think you are a bully to those that are weak. This is hypocritical, part of their modus operandi. This does not stem from a desire to have control over people themselves, but more that if there is one thing this type does not like it is people being unkind to others they view as being unable to handle it. Unless they are doing it themselves.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Okay. Stop speaking. You're done."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

It is hard to find a designated enemy for the Developer as, to some extent, everyone is an enemy to them. People are pawns or obstacles in extreme cases. As far as the most competent obstacle, or most annoying, the 4 - Inspirational can really get in their way with imaginative tactics, slippery arguments and a lack of real ambition.

Why the Developer will be hated by others:

The Developer carries on as the bully (usual mode).

Why the Developer will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, an Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Developer is drawn to the Enhancer's extreme competence and reliability. They are also impressed by their visionary outlook and hence we get along very well at work and in matters of setting long-term strategy. Both are fans of self-improvement, which further lubricates the relationship. This relationship is only possible if both are intellectually secure. Otherwise, there will be fireworks. "These are the bullies and I carefully pick which ones I will tolerate but that is on a strictly as needs basis only".

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3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?

The Results is the Jack Russell Terrier

Oxor Main Hate™: The Snail's Pace. The Results cannot stand when someone wants them to fall in line. Their first instinct is to explore, try new things, break the mold and test the boundaries. Which they do often and, in the process, might accidentally stumble upon a new way to be. Which is awesome to them. But if they find a more efficient procedure at work or think they have a solution for a perpetual relationship argument, they might become frustrated when it is not implemented immediately. The Results is are probably the most impatient pattern. But they should remember that they are often the earliest adopter of an idea or trend — and can even jump too quickly. Slowing down (by a small degree) and hearing others’ concerns will help them avoid having to backpedal.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make the Results feel trapped. And you will be hated.

The Results like to feel like masters of their own destiny and they will begin to resent you rather quickly if you try to take that away from them. It is doubly interesting then that this pattern often attracts smothering personality types, only to have to free themselves when they realize what has happened.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Yes. I'm out of here."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Results tick other people off, but pretty much get along with everyone. But anyone who restricts their freedom had better watch out.

Why the Results will be hated by others:

The Results makes others feel trapped.

Why the Results will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Results is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like the Results' empty promises".

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4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?

The Inspirational is the Bull Terrier

Oxor Main Hate™: Poor decision-making. The Inspirational can seem like a wild child at times. They will try anything once, test boundaries, stay out late and venture into the unknown. But all these quirks and visible emotions hide a deeply logical inner core. They only take calculated risks. They need to achieve and they will put parameters in place to make sure that happens. All that is to say: The Inspirational makes smart decisions and cannot understand others’ poor decision-making. In teams or relationships especially, the Inspirational is advised to be extra clear about what they need; not every pattern is as intuitive as they are.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just belittle the Inspirational. And you will be hated.

The Inspirational hates being talked down to more than any other pattern. This is because while they typically have high self-esteem, it is usually mixed with a lot of self-doubt. This means that they will react to being made to feel small by reacting based off not only their wounded pride, but also their reinforced feelings of inadequacy.
They are the joke of Disc - everything about them is contradictory. Introverted extravert. Funniest outwardly and the most terrifying inwardly. They love to stand up for their viewpoints yet will sometimes defend a side they do no even agree with in a debate. They are insane yet, from their logical arguments, you would think they were the most sane. They are energetic about any subject that interests them, only to drop the project like a hot potato the moment they get bored with it which does not take long.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Nods and smiles until the other person goes away, internally not approving of anything they are saying.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - OT and 13 - Practitioner who will not argue. The OT is not a quick thinker and are very slow to understand and appreciate the Inspirational’s outside the box thinking. They always insist on doing things the right way, or being thorough, which the lightning fast Inspirational really hates. The Practitioner will not argue and merely stand on their quirky, personal principles, incapable of compartmentalizing for the greater good also really chafes on the Inspirational.

Why the Inspirational will be hated by others:

The Inspirational belittles others.

Why the Inspirational will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Inspirational is drawn to the Enhancer's intelligence and practicality. Brainstorming is always fun between these types, but the Enhancer will always try and get something useful from the interaction to solve a problem. The Inspirational enjoys being part of that process with the Enhancer, the process of creating a new idea by just thinking and talking. "I only tolerate the Inspirational and have never had, nor wanted, one as a friend".

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5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?

The Persuader is the Boxer

Oxor Main Hate™: Inconsistency. The Persuader is able to read people in two phases: They pick up on their emotional energy and then interpret the most likely explanation for their feelings, behaviour and what makes them tick. They can often get wrapped up in people that they do not understand - thinking that the more they learn the more likely it will be to magically 'get it'. So when someone is inconsistent and the Persuader seemingly cannot rely on them to keep plans or show up in big moments, they are ruffed to the core. They want to deeply understand those they care about and only invest in people who are willing to love them back. While some say it is good to realize humans are not inherently predictable, Oxor says they are, it is certainly okay for the Persuader to keep a distance from people who do not seem to say what they mean, or mean what they say. That circumstance can drive them nuts.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be a fake in the eyes of the Persuader. And you will be hated.

The Persuader can sense when someone is fake almost immediately and they will be even angrier with you if it takes them even a little while to recognise it. In addition, once they find someone who is fake they will use their natural charm to make sure that everyone else knows your true nature, in order to make sure that you cannot make anyone else feel the way that they felt.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Searches in vain for the other person's good qualities.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Persuader tends to get along with everybody, but the 12 - Achiever's devil may care attitude may tend to tick them off. They dislike people who seem to shirk responsibility. The Persuader dislikes those who lack responsibility to greater causes. The 16 - Enhancer, is particularly not popular with the Persuader due to their lack of interest in 'greater causes'.

Why the Persuader will be hated by others:

The Persuader interferes.

Why the Persuader will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Persuader is drawn to the Enhancer's maturity and emotional easiness, aka lack of drama. The Persuader gets extremely emotionally drained by unhappy people around them, but being with the Enhancer allows them to relax because of the Enhancer's legendary directness, bluntness and honesty. "I cannot wear the Persuaders desire to interfere in my own affairs. They can bugger off".

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6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ

The Appraiser is the Great Dane

Oxor Main Hate™: Arguing for no reason. The Appraiser just wants everyone to get along. Arguments that could have been avoided, nitpicking someone’s behaviour or starting a heated debate has no point. At their core, they want to help others connect and see friendships grow and thrive. So when people seem to inflame 'drama' that might have been avoided with a simple sidestep, it irritates the Appraiser. The Appraiser is advised that some patterns do not argue to be frustrating or speak their minds to brew controversy. They debate to test ideas or get to know others’ perspectives better and they get over it quickly. Sometimes it is best to agree to disagree and move on.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just micromanage the Appraiser. And you will be hated.

The Appraiser is generally relaxed, so the fastest way to make them hate you is to take over their schedule to pack it full. This does not mean they do not enjoy regular activities, just that if you try to make them break up their calendar into half hour blocks they will begin to resent you.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Um, the think you said is really not right, sorry."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

16 - The Enhancer. To the Appraiser, the Enhancer seems is cold, heartless and too dark; everything that the people and comfort loving Appraiser dislikes. It does not help that, despite their shared Judging, the Enhancer does not respect other people’s rules much. Plus, their death stare can really kill a mood in a kind of awesome way.

Why the Appraiser will be hated by others:

The Appraiser micromanages others.

Why the Appraiser will not be liked by others:

Reason 5 of 6 options. Integrity.

Sadly, integrity, strong ethics and conscience seem to be the things of the past. In a society built on greed, selfishness and hypocrisy being a person with a sound moral code can be a real struggle.

When one refuses to tolerate certain behaviour or to take advantage of others, the peron with integrity chooses a difficult path. It is a disappointing fact that it is much harder for a person with strong ethics to become successful and navigate life in today’s world. They will not act according to what is convenient but will always follow their set of principles, even if it means making unfavourable decisions.

For one with high integrity, it can also mean that they have high expectations of others. They will treat others with honesty and kindness and will expect them to do the same. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. When others lie or try to exploit for their purposes, this will not be tolerated. This attitude may form a reputation of a person who is impossible to work with or deal with.

And this could be the reason why people do not like a person of integrity. Remember, no one likes inconvenient people. But at the same time, they are much more difficult to be take advantage of.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Appraiser is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I cannot see much common ground".

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7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?

The Promoter is the Golden Retriever

Oxor Main Hate™: Clashing values. The Promoter is defined by a very clear sense of self together with a deeply felt sense of right and wrong. They live by their moral compass and they take deep offense to people who seem lawless or so carefree that they are constantly hurting others. The Promoter is well advised to keep in mind that not everyone values exactly the same things they do. It is wise for a Promoter to find and stick around 'their people'. They should surround themselves with people who share their world view and the stresses of trying to understand others (as they naturally do) will feel far less taxing. And many patterns will appreciate not having to put up with the Promoter.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just take the Promoter for granted. And you will be hated.

The Promoter is a natural people pleaser, but they have to know that all their hard work has some affect on you. You do not have to throw them a parade, they just want you to occasionally thank them for everything they do, and let them know that it is important to you. This can be a challenge due to their constant unreliability.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Makes subtle snide comment then makes totally unsubtle rude comment when the other person moves away.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - The OT is the Promoter's natural enemy, a representative of the rules and inconvenient facts, rigidity, unimaginativeness and stifled creativity that is every Promoter’s monster in the closet. The OT appears to be way too boring for the Promoter.

Why the Promoter will be hated by others:

The Promoter takes others for granted.

Why the Promoter will not be liked by others:

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Promoter is drawn to the enhancer due to the latter’s authentic confidence, cool logic, their complex plans that always seem to succeed and their soft and mushy emotional center.
The Promoter seems to be able to instinctively sense the soft centre with their Extraverted Intuition and their Introverted Feeling while other patterns are more intimidated by the Enhancer's exterior. The Promoter loves interesting people and mature Enhancer's usually one-of-a-kind individuals. "I cannot wear the Promoter as they cannot be relied upon to finish anything".

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8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP

The Counselor is the Poodle

Oxor Main Hate™: Rigidity. The Counselor likes to live life on their own terms and really does not like to be defined by a set-in-stone plan. When someone tries to nail down a date, a time or a deadline the Counselor starts to feel that person is cramping their style — and they may even push back. This can be very annoying to others. Although the Counselor operates best with flexibility, they are well advised to remember that commitments and timelines will inevitably help them to reach their most fulfilling goals. The Counselor does not want to wake up one day and realize they missed the boat on their dreams; their path to achieving those dreams maybe a map of loose guidelines toward their destination, not a single set of directions. Bear in mind that many do not a like your method one bit.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be codependent on the Counselor. And you will be hated.

There is no quicker way to make a Counselor hate you than to immediately force yourself to be the most important person in their life. Cutting them off from their abilities to feel independent and have friends outside of each other will make them attempt to avoid you as soon and as much as possible.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "I've got to go. I have plans with that girl. Didn't I tell you that earlier? Oops. Bye!"

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - OT. The Counselor is happiest when they are having fun, letting go and getting others to let go. A controlling and in control OT is an abominable stick in the mud to them.

Why the Counselor will be hated by others:

The Counselor is co-dependent on others.

Why the Counselor will not be liked by others:

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Counselor is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like being dragged into the spotlight at all and that is the Counselor's modus operandi".

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9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP

The Specialist is the Saint Bernard

Oxor Main Hate™: Ignoring the real you. The Specialist is fiercely independent and appreciates when others see them for their uniqueness. With their charm and aura of mystery, they have a line of people who want to be around their intriguing, vibrant spirit. But not everyone 'gets' the Specialist on a deeper level and that realization can lead to a huge letdown. Some people might even make them into more of a fantasy than a reality which drives them up the wall. The Specialist does not need any part of that; but some people might actually be trying harder to understand more than is realised. The Specialist is well advised that before they lock someone out for not getting to know the real Specialist they should contemplate whether they have even been allowing them a solid chance for that to happen.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be dismissive of the Specialist. And you will be hated.

The Specialist is naturally excited about the things and people they love, though it is often hard for them to express it the way they want it. In other words, the fastest way to get them to hate you is to wait until they finally work up the courage to explain how they feel about something or someone and then tell them you think that thing or person is lame.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Silence.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

1 - The Director. The complete practicality and goal-oriented, organised mindset of the Director, with room for little else, is awful to the Specialist. The Developer is another candidate for the most hated, but a small part of the Developer would be able to appreciate the Specialists art on a very deep level, so all would probably be forgiven.

Why the Specialist will be hated by others:

The Specialist is dismissive of others.

Why the Specialist will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Specialist is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like their arty-farty ways".

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10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?

The Investigator is the Greyhound

Oxor Main Hate™: Stirring the pot. The Investigator does not come to every social event, but when they do, they are usually putting out fires between friends and smoothing the human dynamics at parties. They are the quintessential wise and sage therapist and have a knack for figuring out how people tick or where relationships are breaking down. They can also quickly suss out is stirring the pot, which the Investigator hates. They want people to just get along. Their awareness is both a blessing and a curse. While thanks may be dished out for helping humans live in peace, the Investigator is well advised to remember that not every battle is their to mediate or remedy. They can just enjoy a party because it is just that. And forget Erwin's passive-aggressive remark to Emily as it is none of your business

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make the Investigator feel like they can never be good enough. And you will be hated.

This is one of the main stress factors that The Investigator puts put on themselves, so they do not need it from the outside world. This is particularly true if they look up to you, as this naturally sensitive type will take it very hard.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Says nothing in the moment but discusses the other person with a trusted friend later.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

In a similar fashion to the 16 - Enhancer, the Investigator does not really have any natural enemies. They tend to love humanity, understand humanity and help humanity. Sometimes, however, patterns like the 2 - Developer, whose proficiency in forwarding their own interests at the expense of others, can get on their nerves.

Why the Investigator will be hated by others:

The Investigator makes others feel like they can never be good enough.

Why the Investigator will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Investigator is drawn to the Enhancer because they sense depth comparable to themselves and a fierce intelligence that they enjoy exploring. It is very rare for both to find someone else like themselves (Introverted Intuition) but still different in fun ways. The Investigator is logical so both are drawn to the intense intellectual and philosophical conversations. The Investigator is whom the Enhancer feels most understood by and is hence most likely to open up to. This last point goes both ways. "I can door-slam, but the Investigator is the market leader so I know that at the start".

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11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?

The Agent is the Tibetan Terrier

Oxor Main Hate™: Controlling behaviour. The Agent knows who they are and what they stand for; unconventional though it generally seems to others. They typically see the best in everyone and want to be surrounded by those who will let them be your truest yourself. They hate it when others try to dim their spark, whether it is dismissing their argument or questioning your decisions. The Agent is well advised to just be careful. They work hard at fully accepting others exactly as they are but often lash out when they feel that someone is trying to control them or if someone puts them down one too many times. They do not understand that they are in La La Land. If they do snap back, this can ultimately lead to regret, of which they are prone, which is in addition to the original annoyance. The method to combat this is to try to call out negative behaviour calmly and firmly early on to get the grievance off their chest (before they blow up) as they do not need to stand for that. !

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just a stick-in-the-mud in the Agent's eyes. And you will be hated.

This is doubly true if you attempt to inflict your stubborn judgments onto other people. The Agent is a born bohemian and does not take kindly to people trying to ruin their latest spontaneous idea. This does not mean they will not listen to sense, only that they will know and dislike it if you try to get them to not do something just because it does not mesh with your ideas. There will always be issues.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Please leave."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

1 - Director, absolutely. The Agent loves stories, fantasies, poems, all the impractical beauties of the world. The Director is a complete mood killer, plus their lack of empathy also ticks the Agent off.

Why the Agent will be hated by others:

The Agent is a stick-in-the-mud.

Why the Agent will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Agent is drawn to the Enhancer and, like the Promoter, enjoys interesting people and they can go more in-depth in matters of emotion, morality, spirituality etc. than any other type. They like playing with and seeing how the Enhancer's mind works by talking about all sorts of fascinating things that are very different for the Enhancer. (Who else may an Enhancer talk to about stuff like this?) They are drawn by the depth, intelligence and childlike naivety underneath it all. The Agent may see a very unique side of the Enhancer where our Extraverted Thinking takes the backseat and Introverted Feeling comes into play. "I cannot stand the Agent as they are in La La Land and are whinging Space Cadets".

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12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?

The Achiever is the Bassett Hound

Oxor Main Hate™: Dishonesty. The Achiever just wants the bare-bones facts. They do not need to know every gory detail of your friend’s latest fight with their partner or talk, ad nauseam, about who said what and to whom. The Achiever does not pry and does not like drama. But if they ask a question, it is because they really think the answer is important to the dynamic of their friendship or the understanding of a person or an issue in a larger sense. They are fine with not getting an answer, but are not fine with being lied to. Ever! To the Achiever dishonesty is just inefficient. The Achiever is well advised to remember that sometimes your friends and associates might not be fully comfortable divulging emotional stuff because the Achiever so rarely wants to get involved. Having honest, open relationships, requires trust which is often build during those mushy heart-to-hearts with which the Achiever struggles. It is a strategy to try emoting with friends and associates from time to time for which honesty will be returned.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just force the Achiever to be "normal". And you will be hated.

The Achiever likes to live their life the way they wish, even if that is contrary to what society wants for them. The fastest way to make them hate you is to present the world to them as strictly black and white, even if you say they are on the “good side”.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Provides layers and layers of ironic insults and sees how obvious they can get without the other person noticing.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

5 - The Persuader and 14 - OT. They do not like, and are annoyed by, the idealism and organisation / interfering nature of the Persuader. They think that the OT is almost good but their insistence on sticking to the beaten path is a fatal flaw.

Why the Achiever will be hated by others:

The Achiever forces others to be “normal”.

Why the Appraiser will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Achiever is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I like their practical nous but that is about all".

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13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?

The Practitioner is the Alaskan Malamute

Oxor Main Hate™: Instability. The Practitioner is pretty chilled a lot of the time. Part of the reason for this is because they like things a certain way and they work hard to keep everything organized and planned. Their biggest pet peeve is when everything gets jumbled and turned upside down, even if the chaos is prompted by a categorically 'good thing' such as a potential job promotion. They just like when all is decided and safe; instability and loose ends tend to make their typically patient personality become seriously agitated. Leaning on others during these more unstable times is their best bet. Although they need alone time, they are well advised that they benefit a lot from dishing out doses of social comfort, even if that means just calling their best friend for a good chat.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be flaky to the Practitioner. And you will be hated.

One of the most important qualities to a Practitioner is that they can rely on someone. This is especially because they often do not feel that they can rely on themselves and their own judgment and look to others to help guide them. Proving yourself to be unreliable will see you excommunicated from this patterns inner circle.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Sighs a lot.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

4 - The Inspirational and the 2 - Developer. This is because they will burn down anything to see the flames and they will step on anyone to reach the top. And they are both excellent at that.

Why the Practitioner will be hated by others:

The Practitioner is flaky.

Why the Practitioner will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 5 of 6 options. Integrity.

Sadly, integrity, strong ethics and conscience seem to be the things of the past. In a society built on greed, selfishness and hypocrisy being a person with a sound moral code can be a real struggle.

When one refuses to tolerate certain behaviour or to take advantage of others, the peron with integrity chooses a difficult path. It is a disappointing fact that it is much harder for a person with strong ethics to become successful and navigate life in today’s world. They will not act according to what is convenient but will always follow their set of principles, even if it means making unfavourable decisions.

For one with high integrity, it can also mean that they have high expectations of others. They will treat others with honesty and kindness and will expect them to do the same. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. When others lie or try to exploit for their purposes, this will not be tolerated. This attitude may form a reputation of a person who is impossible to work with or deal with.

And this could be the reason why people do not like a person of integrity. Remember, no one likes inconvenient people. But at the same time, they are much more difficult to be take advantage of.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Practitioner is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I get sick of the Practitioner's passive-aggressive nature that sits behind a kind exterior. They do not like the games I play with them when holding them to account in a conflict situation. They do not get that I do not care who I upset".

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14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?

The Objective Thinker is the Bernese Mountain Dog

Oxor Main Hate™: Tons of change. The Objective Thinker's motto might as well be “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” They like routine and the tried-and-true methods because there is a precedent for success and therefore a low failure rate. They can deal with one change at a time if it is truly needed. However, if their significant other wants to consider a move and kids, for instance, or their boss wants them to tackle a new project and travel interstate to wrap an old one, they get overwhelmed and frustrated. The Objective Thinker will ask: "Is this really necessary?" "Maybe, maybe not". Although they are introverted and would rather do than talk, they are well advised to articulate their needs and desire to do one fcuking thing at a time.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make everything into a grand spectacle for the OT. And you will be hated.

The OT is naturally shy and they put stock into doing things the right, humble way. This does not mean they do not want acknowledgment for the things they do, merely that they will not appreciate it if your praise feels like an empty yet ostentatious display of your own abilities.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Moves away.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

7 - The Promoter and 4 - the Inspirational. The OT returns the dislike in both cases. They are continually annoyed by their seeming disrespect for any and all rules and authority and their lack of focus and organisation.

Why the OT will be hated by others:

If the OT makes everything into a grand spectacle of their own ability.

Why the OT will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The OT may take a while to get used to and comfortable with the Enhancer’s unconventionality, but the relationship drastically improves once they do. "I virtually only pick OT's as my friends since I learned Disc over 20 years ago".

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15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?

The Perfectionist is the Papillon

Oxor Main Hate™: 'Meaningless' activities. The Perfectionist does not squander energy; everything they do works into the bigger picture of their goals and dreams. Even if obsessed by science, they might also take business classes to launch their own startup centered around an invention of yours. They may be reading self-help books to just get a handle on the human stuff a bit better, since they can feel hopeless at times. The Perfectionist cannot be bothered with what they deem truly 'meaningless' activities, such as staying on top of celebrity gossip. They are well advised to remember that their brain does not always need to chug along at a million km per hour, though. Reality TV could very well be the break that will recharge their mental battery. They should try it before they knock it.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just do not listen to the Perfectionist. And you will be hated.

The Perfectionist is the natural 'professor' and this means that they will have topics or stories that they feel like they need people to know. This does not mean they need rapt attention and perfect silence all the time, just that you do not pick up your phone while your eyes glaze over the minute they start talking.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Shuffles their feet.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

9 - The Specialist and 8 - The Counselor. The Perfectionist hates irrationality and when too much importance is placed on feeling by some of the introverted Feelers. The Counselor would simply appear as some kind of joke while the Promoter's endless flow of ideas would have their respect. The Perfectionist has some similarities to the Agent. The Specialist would probably get the prize of the most disliked.

Why the Perfectionist will be hated by others:

The Perfectionist does not listen to others.

Why the Perfectionist will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 6 of 6 options. High Intelligence

The Perfectionist is always the top of the sixteen patterns when it comes to intelligence. Intelligent people often feel misunderstood and rejected. Even the greatest geniuses in history had to go through this, including Nikola Tesla and Albert Einstein.

Great spirits have always encountered opposition from mediocre minds. Often highly intelligent people are quite eccentric and lack social skills. They are deeply passionate about the specific niche of their interest which may be unpopular or difficult to understand for those around them. This is ‘Intellectual Loneliness’. It is when a highly intelligent person feels alone because they struggle to find someone of a similar intellectual level to discuss their ideas with.

They also do not easily conform to the unwritten social rules and want to delve into the essence of things instead of settling for superficiality. For all these reasons, highly intelligent people may encounter social rejection.

But why don’t people like them in the first place? Because their intellect is intimidating. After all, no one likes to be challenged or feel intellectually inferior. Highly intelligent people may be labelled as snobs or weirdos while, in reality, others just cannot understand them. It is our unfortunate natural tendency to perceive things and people we do not understand in a negative light.

But the Perfectionist will hate you for the following key reasons:
▼ When you tell them what to do; ▼ If you display some sort of self entitlement; ▼ You make accusations and assumptions that are not supported; ▼ You are overly emotional; ▼ You treat them like a child; ▼ If you try to become too familiar; ▼ Putting too much pressure on; ▼ Jumping head first into situations you know little about ▼ Being entirely negative; ▼ Intruding on time; ▼ Contradicting yourself, being hypocritical or blindly sticking to your own thoughts as if it were a religion, saying we are the ones wrong because we do not fit into your ideals. (SJW's - take note)

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Perfectionist is drawn to the Enhancer's intelligence and practicality. Brainstorming is always fun between these types, but the Enhancer will always try and get something useful from the interaction to solve a problem. The Perfectionist enjoys being part of that process with the Enhancer, the process of creating a new idea by just thinking and talking. "I only just tolerate the Perfectionist as they cannot balance perfectionism with completion".

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16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?

The Enhancer is the Afghan Hound

Oxor Main Hate™: Surprises. The Enhancer loves to plan their life and likes routine. Everything gets pencilled into the Google calendar weeks or months in advance so they know how to navigate their to-do list while still fitting in friends, family and hobbies. They plan to be spontaneous next week. With this in mind, they HATE surprises that throw their entire daily or weekly 'working model' off-kilter. Such as the doctor changing the appointment time 28 minutes prior or keeping the Enhancer waiting for 30 minutes as the doctor is not yet in the building . They will be ruffled no end if a friend says they are in the neighborhood and wants to drop by but also if your partner plans a surprise getaway for the weekend. They are well advised to just remember that a the Promoter, Agent, Inspirational, Perfectionist, Results, Achiever, Counselor and Specialist operate better with spontaneous decisions and open-ended plans. It is therefore good practice give and take and sometimes grin and bear it. This will be a lot easier for the Enhancer who is an Oxor™ graduate or disciple.

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just give the appearance to the Enhancer that you are easily swayed. And you will be hated.

The Enhancer sees the world mostly in black and white and dislikes people who cannot take a stand even on the most basic issues. They respect people who show the courage of their convictions but it must always be based on undisputed facts. If they see you as being weak-minded they will never rely on you and will almost certainly have a negative view of you. They are the loners, after all.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Goodbye."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Enhancer does not really have enemies. They understand every personality type and do not condescend to hate any of them. They probably think of others as noisy, all over the place, slight entertainment factors and very gullible. However, the Enhancer is automatically suspicious of those who do not take responsibility and this is likely to be some folk in the patterns of 5 - Persuader, 7 Promoter, 10 - Investigator and 11 Agent.

Here are some attributes that the Enhancer dislikes; you have been warned:
▲ Surprises
▲ Having someone make decisions for them
▲ Ordering the Enhancer to do something that was already planned. It will be abandoned
▲ Receiving gifts as the Enhancer would be forced to reciprocate
▲ Small talk and gossip
▲ Attacks on intelligence, competence and integrity especially by people who are stupid, arrogant, opinionated and / or closed minded
▲ Manipulation
▲ Insincerity / lying
▲ Interference with alone time
▲ Time wasters
▲ Lateness
▲ Incessant talkers
▲ Incorrect grammar and word usage
▲ Summary: Be brief, be bright and be gone.

Why the Enhancer will be hated by others:

The Enhancer is aloof and a loner.

Why the Enhancer will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

Special section for the Enhancer - all fellow Committee Members should read!:

The Enhancer is often surrounded by inexperienced and / or incompetent people who think their own way of doing things is the best way, even when clearly it is not. They care about some, but certainly not all, of these people and do not want to see the selected folk fail. They will chip in and try to be helpful, offering advice, answers, etc. Then they get ridiculed for their offerings, or there is some pushback or resistance to the advice or the facts or whatever it is. Nobody likes what advice given, nobody really wants to hear it at all. Was it simply the tone of voice that that was not liked?.

The Enhancer’s advice is often not taken or, if it is, then they certainly do not get any credit for the assistance. Then if the advice is not taken and the project is a clusterfcuk, these same colleagues always come back later when everything has indeed fallen apart and demand answers. “What do I do now? The Enhancer is supposed to know everything, aren’t they? HELP ME!” Notice no 'please'. It is as if these loons would rather take the frustration for their own failures to listen out on the Enhancer, the only person who bothered to offer help to them in the first place.

But even more frustrating is these loons never seem to figure out either that they need to work on their own selves and get smarter and that an Enhancer actually knows what they are talking about as if they did not they would keep their mouth shut. They never seem to figure this out and always default to assuming the Enhancer knows nothing, or is being eccentric, only to come back again shortly after begging for help. Over and over again.

That constant brick wall of other people’s stubbornness and incompetence, alongside never getting one iota of credit the actual help or never being trusted as the person who does actually have a brain does get old. It might be one of the reasons your friendly Enhancer just retreats further away from Committees into their own world, because of not being appreciated at all.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction or otherwise?:

The Enhancer is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not know another Enhancer and I reckon there would be issues as there can be only ever be one Captain and that would always have to be me."

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