Situation - You are observing when someone is INGENIOUSLY PROBLEMATIC™ or DISPLAYING ABRASIVE RUDE BEHAVIOUR (ABR)™
When someone is being Ingeniously Problematic™
can make it easy for you to pick their pattern
Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour is on display when it is clearly known what
the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous
and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be
'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant
hypocrisy. It may be used when defending yourself on some sort of charge - whether it be in
court or your mother has accused you of something and you do not want to admit to it.
Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour is not lying, but it is close to the line. The Ingeniously Problematic™ folk tend to be in the High D quadrant, but not always. Sometimes you have to look as to who gave instructions to whom.
Nevertheless, it can sometimes be a good tactic to use this technique when trying to extricate yourself from a problem.
Here is an example from a Master: "I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky."
This famous statement from the US President, Bill Clinton, is the Gold Standard of Ingeniously
Problematic™ behaviour. If there was a Hall of Fame, he would be the Patron.
This fits the definition and also fits the Hypocrisy Gauge of a Counselor.
In 1999, Hillary Clinton described her husband as "a hard dog to keep on the porch".
Here is another general one: "I solemnly swear to tell the truth as I know it, the whole truth as I believe it to be and nothing but what I think you need to know."
Some patterns have a tendency to behave in a way which feels abrasive to others. This can either be because they have over the top and in your face personalities or because they can be a bit harsh in their delivery.
Here are the Hypocrisy Gauges also. The anger that is within and what sets off anger! Hypocrisy is very important in being Ingeniously Problematic™.
1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Blasted Ingeniously Problematic™ assertion. “I get more ess, aitch, one, tee done than anybody.” Actually intimidates Specialist and Practitioner types to do the majority of their grunt work. (Same as the Developer).
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I can handle it".
When annoyed or angry: Will bluntly state whatever is making them upset.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: The most volatile. Little details being out of place, carelessness, resistance to 'their way'.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Sometimes (often) have abrasive personalities, since they are naturally aggressive people. They go after what they want and do not like allowing anything to stand in their way. They also value efficiency and so when someone is being lazy or incapable of getting something done they are unlikely to just let this slide. They will express their thoughts very clearly and they are not afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. While they care about their loved ones, for them, honesty is more important than sensitivity.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Has a fun side and can be very adventurous outside their normal duties. This is not always readily apparent. Can be difficult to manage, rude and a picky customer.
2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Blasted Ingeniously Problematic™ assertion. “I get more ess, aitch, one, tee done than anybody.” Actually intimidates Specialist and Practitioner types to do the majority of their grunt work. (Same as the Director).
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I’m not stressed, there’s not much pressure".
When annoyed or angry: Will come out with a cold, calculated, concise statement of icy fury.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Will 'go off' unless totally unnecessary. Others trying to undermine, inefficiency.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Can be very abrasive people sometimes, simply because they are honest and upfront people. When they are expressing a point it can sometimes come across abrasive, since they are not great at toning things down to be sensitive to others. They express the facts without really trying to hold back for the sake of someone else and this can be a bit abrasive. They are also aggressive people, especially when they are going after what they want in life. This aggressive behaviour can be a bit abrasive at times, especially for people who are more sensitive.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Fiercely loyal, should you gain their loyalty, in a territorial manner in a style similar to that of a domesticated hell hound. This is the bully that your side wants and often needs.
3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Blasted Ingeniously Problematic™. Can dish it out but cannot take it well coming back the other way.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I could never betray you".
When annoyed or angry: Start fighting, doing a work out.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Do it in the moment. Boredom, being confined.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Can sometimes be a bit abrasive when they are passionate about something. When they become truly excited or worked up, there are times when their personality can feel a little bit abrasive. They express themselves openly and go after the things which inspire them most in life. They are outgoing people who enjoy really being able to feel comfortable being themselves, which can sometimes cause them to appear abrasive to people who are not prepared for it.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Somewhat surprisingly, is quite aware and sensitive to the emotions of others and looks to maintain a certain self image. This is not at all easy to observe.
4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Grand Master of Ingeniously Problematic statements. Takes logical shortcuts to jump to conclusions without checking facts.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I am self-confident".
When annoyed or angry: Will hurl calculated and witty insults at the other person.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Gets annoyed very easily and tends to show this. Closed-minded/illogical thought, ignorance.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Are sometimes abrasive people, since they do not like holding back or pandering to spare someone’s feelings. They do not want to hurt people, but they would rather be precise and accurate with their words. Consistently seek out debates as well and this type of behaviour can feel abrasive for those who do not like drama or confrontation. They would rather be able to argue about things so they can learn more about the details and uncover little truths they did not quite know before.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Consciously or subconsciously desires to engage and connect with others around them. This is central to their cunning modus operandi.
5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Watch out for Ingeniously Problematic™. Almost always running a secret agenda. (Same as the Appraiser).
When annoyed or angry: Will explode with rage, either criticising those around them harshly or reacting physically - more likely to punch a wall than another person.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I’m calm, I’m not angry".
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Will talk over with a good friend first. Being taken advantage of/not appreciated, injustice.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Are empathetic people so they can often tone things down when they are actually being abrasive. They do sometimes have over the top personalities though, especially when they are passionate about something. When they are excited about a subject sometimes they can go on chatting about it and this can seem a bit abrasive to some people. To those who are less outgoing and chatty, they might appear abrasive at times. Most of the time though, they like to make others feel comfortable and so they will tone it down.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Often has more to give and contribute but this is masked by the reduction of pushing of their own ideas in order to accommodate others. This is the known tendency to interfere in other people's lives. Can be hoity-toity.
6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Watch out for Ingeniously Problematic™. Almost always running a secret agenda. (Same as the Persuader).
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I wasn’t jealous".
When annoyed or angry: Will be blunt or overly critical. Will hold grudges.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Will express feelings readily, then move on. Not being appreciated, the upsetting of deeply held values.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES but NOT USUALLY. Tries not to be abrasive, since they want to be sensitive and respective of others. They can often tell when they are upsetting someone and so they will try to tone things down or take a step back when this happens. Their ability to connect with others and understand their needs, does often help them avoid being too abrasive. The only times where they might appear more abrasive, is when they are trying to help someone and that person really does not want the help.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Struggles to identify their own needs and desires due to the tendency to satisfy others first. This is pretty right.
7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?
Hypocrisy Gauge:Watch out for Ingeniously Problematic™. Constantly encouraging others to stretch, when they themselves have areas they stubbornly refuse to change.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I’m okay".
When annoyed or angry: Will drop the relationship or blow up and may or may not later appropriately apologize to the person or to the others who observed the tirade.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Wants to maintain harmony. Criticism, being controlled or held to account.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Are outgoing people and sometimes this can feel a bit abrasive. Most of the time they do not like to be too overboard with their behaviour, but they express themselves openly. When they are feeling passionate and excited about something, they can be a little bit abrasive. They go after what they want and sometimes this can be hard for others to handle when they simply will stop at nothing to acquire these goals. They also can be occasionally needy when they want something from a specific person, and this can feel abrasive.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Covets access to leadership in order to be a driving force for their causes. This is the pipe dreamer. Never finishes anything which is what any leader must do. Pop up when they need you and vapourise when they do not.
8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP
Hypocrisy Gauge: Watch out for Ingeniously Problematic™. Pretty much on the level. (Same as the Specialist).
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I promise, I’ll be careful".
When annoyed or angry: Will cry, yell or throw a fit, although will get over it quickly.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Hesitates if in fun environment. Being controlled/having freedom to have fun taken away, criticism.
Abrasive and Rude™: YES. Sometimes have over the top personalities, which can be a bit abrasive for some. They express themselves openly, without allowing anything to hold them back. When they want something they will stop at nothing to get it and so this can feel a little bit abrasive for others. They do not mind being a little wild when they want something and simply want to go after what inspires them most. This can certainly makes them abrasive to some people who cannot handle their intensity.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Deep thinker and emotionally intense. This makes them somewhat difficult to deal with.
9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP
Hypocrisy Gauge: Rare Ingeniously Problematic™. Pretty much on the level. (Same as the Counselor).
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I've got it under control".
When annoyed or angry: Will use body language, becoming distant, pouting or by the use of other nonverbal cues.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Internalises anger. Other people stepping on emotions, limitations of freedom.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Are not often abrasive people, since they keep to themselves most of the time. They do not like being too over the top around people who they do not understand or trust. When they do trust someone they might be a little bit more open to be themselves and even be a bit over the top. They are not usually abrasive though, since they are sensitive people who understand when someone needs their space and they will not invade this in an obnoxious way.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Wants to bring about change in a way that they lead and inspire the charge rather than forcing against other people's will by influencing them to create change in the same direction through other's different contributions. This makes them poor managers.
10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Rare Ingeniously Problematic™. Whinges about the difficulties of extreme empathy. In reality, a bit smug while spending perhaps 10% of their time actually engaging people.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I don’t judge you".
When annoyed or angry: Will bring up each and every one of your flaws, weaknesses and vulnerabilities and use them to systematically and psychologically bring you down. Often repeats this tactless nagging in future outbursts.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Hard to get angry but when you hurt them emotionally, insulting a deeply held belief.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Do not usually have abrasive personalities, since they keep to themselves a lot with things. They are not likely to express themselves openly and so they do not often behave in a way that feels too abrasive. They are also very aware of others and their needs and can tell when someone finds their behaviour to be too much. In these situations, they know when the tone it back and be a bit less abrasive. Naturally they do not have personalities which are too abrasive or hard to handle, since they are good at reading others and responding to them.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Can struggle to gain emotional satisfaction from relationships. Their need for emotional connection with others may be larger than what others want to contribute. Can go from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde.
11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Rare Ingeniously Problematic™. Extremely tolerant...until they are not anymore. Then, they will violate every value they have to make their point.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I’m over it".
When annoyed or angry: Will keep feelings to themselves, showing only small signs of passive aggressiveness. Will blow up once in a while.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Once a year event. Injustice, hypocrisy.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Capable of keeping things to themselves and are often sensitive people. They do not like being abrasive or behaving in a way which upsets others. They are not usually abrasive people since they prefer to give others their space and distance. They do not enjoy when people get in their face and do not give them room to breathe and so they are not often like this towards others. They do have times when they want the attention of someone they love and this can feel a bit needy but not necessarily abrasive.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Has a love hate relationship with leadership as they want to be an inspiration to others to propel their causes forward but not hurt or harm those in the way because of their decisions. Never appoint as a leader, ever.
12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Rare Ingeniously Problematic™. Scoffs at everyone else’s superstitious biases while blind to their own.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "It's no big deal".
When annoyed or angry: Will curse and be insulting the other person, or express their emotions physically - by fighting or punching something.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Generally self controlled. People trying to annoy/upset them, lack of time alone.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Do not usually have abrasive personalities, since they are much more relaxed most of the time. They do not like being over the top or pushing other people as they prefer to do things on their own most of the time. They understand how to respect others when they want space, since this is important for them as well. They are often seen as the chilled and laid back people, instead of the abrasive types.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Wants recognition and to gain a good reputation to prove their competency and capacity. The true Mr. Fixit. Has a terrible temper though.
13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: No Ingeniously Problematic™. Expecting others to be reliable/predictable while excusing their own occasional decision that was not expected.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I don’t need help".
When annoyed or angry: Will bottle up their frustration. Will engage in light hearted, but frustrated, comments that get the point across without burning bridges.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Lets out anger slowly using passive aggressiveness. Not being acknowledged, someone they are close to being hurt.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Are not usually abrasive people, since they care about being respectful of others. They care about how others feel and want to make them happy and comfortable. For them it is important to take a step back and really think about how their actions will affect those around them. They try hard to be sensitive and do not want to be seen as over the top people. They just are not naturally abrasive and can actually be a bit more reserved than anything else.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Very quirky and ofter holds interesting points of view or artistic flair which are generally not on display for others to see. The trouble starts when tasks or views are in play in a conflict scenario making them un-selectable as managers and when they become passive-aggressive.
14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Not Ingeniously Problematic™. What you see is what you get, pretty much.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "Oh sorry, I forgot".
When annoyed or angry: Will make snarky comments and show their anger passively or may approach the person directly and pragmatically.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Difficult to get upset and even more difficult to show it. Stress, disrespecting hierarchy.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Are not often abrasive people, since they like to keep to themselves and respect the boundaries of others. For them, it is important to be courteous to others and what they need for space and distance. They will not be in someone’s face when they need to be on their own, since they understand this desire. They do sometimes have a tendency to appear abrasive when they are being direct or trying to get something done, since they are not good at being sensitive to someone else’s emotions in this situation.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Are humourous and playful in a child-like manner when they are not working on a task. Are totally fabulous when working on a task. The consummate project manager.
15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?
Hypocrisy Gauge: NotIngeniously Problematic™. Cannot handle other people’s emotions because they are secretly preoccupied with finding their own.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "Whatever...".
When annoyed or angry: Will use sharp insults to hurt the other person.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Will try to control by rational control or retreating. Persistently being bugged about something, inefficiency.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Are not often abrasive since they prefer to be on their own and avoid people. They limit their interactions since they can become drained by too much socializing. Thay also are not the type of people to be in someone’s face; instead they seem a bit more cool and collected in their behaviour. The only times they might appear abrasive is when they are being direct and expressing a fact to someone. They do not always deliver things in a sensitive nature and so this can seem a bit abrasive and unintentionally hurtful at times.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Values reputation and respect rather highly, especially as it relates to their work. The professor.
16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?
Hypocrisy Gauge: Not Ingeniously Problematic™. Projects aura of extreme depth and decisiveness. Secretly an obsessive and enthusiastic fan of someone or something.
Statement that is most likely to be a lie: "I don’t care".
When annoyed or angry: Will tell you all about how so and so is being extremely stupid. Will tend to either hide these sentiments, express them through passive aggressiveness or only tell those closest to them. When really mad, will either explode with rage or channel their anger into an icy cold fury.
Fuse length and what sets off anger: Finds it easy to get annoyed. Inefficiency, others flaking on plans.
Abrasive and Rude™: NO. Are not abrasive in the sense that they are in others faces, since they do believe in giving people space. While they may not go overboard in this way, they can sometimes be abrasive in their own way. They can sometimes be harsh and do not always deliver things in a sensitive manner. They are not great at toning things down in order to be sensitive to the emotional needs of others and this can be both abrasive and challenging for those around them sometimes.
Covert Factor™ & E. Hunter™ comment: Teddy bears underneath their granite exterior. Engages in a self-fulfilling prophesy that they have to protect themselves from others weakening their true selves resulting in a soft interior that is even more emotionally vulnerable than others. However, they can be spiteful and willing to see the offender’s world 'burn' to get even. The best revenge against their enemies is to be more successful than them so they can rub it in their face if the other party happens to be so inclined. For the other person, they will not help them if they were in trouble. If they made their bed, they can lie in it. If an offender happens to end up in horrible circumstances or worse, the Enhancer will consider it poetic justice. Example: The Enhancer makes suggestions on a project and they are ignored. When the thing bombs, the Enhancer reaches for the Dom Pérignon. It gives them unrivalled satisfaction! Elizabeth Hunter™ is an Enhancer. Only one or two people would have known all this prior to me composing oxor.com.au.