1. Director - ESTJ

The "Border Collie" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Mutual trust, experiences, motivated, ambitious, down-to-earth, loyal, honest, shared values. People who take themselves too seriously or are emotionally reactive are a no-no.
Look for: A m8 who you appreciate working alongside, doing projects together and working towards shared goals. A m8 who is intelligent and full of new ideas and who tends to enjoy a lively debate and brainstorming. A m8 will have to be willing to logically back up their ideas and theories and handle your directness without getting their knickers in a knot.
Not wanted: M8s who take themselves too seriously or are emotionally reactive.
As a friend, I am: Brutally honest.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 70%
I am romantic %age: 20%
I am sexual %age: 10%
Ideal date activity: Comedy club, independent film, fair, festival. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Acts of Service.
Secondary: Physical Touch.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Steady and confident, I give a sense of order and efficiency to everything around me. People fall for me because they sense that, in my presenc, there is reasonableness and honesty. My straightforward manner of speaking might scare some people away but, for many, it is comforting and refreshing. I keep things real and do not waste people’s time with playing games or manipulation. My integrity and clear sense of direction are a soothing balm in a world full of confusion and chaos.

Response to "How are you?": {With dignity} "I am well, Elizabeth, thank you for asking."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Good. Now get back to work."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Agent, Specialist (maybe). The m8 must like being with 'the boss'.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Specialist (maybe), Achiever, Perfectionist.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Investigator; who will want change.


Dating app bio: Not sure if this is the best way to meet a compatible partner but it’s certainly the most efficient way to date in my limited free time! I’m a responsible manager at work, but I know how to let loose. Love travel, friends, craft beer, camping, cooking, and firing up audiobooks before bed. Life is all about balance, humility and turning your dreams into action. If we’ve matched, I definitely want to meet up; I don’t waste time.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be emotionally needy and / or hypersensitive;
≠ Be undependable and / or late;
≠ Be insincere and / or phony;
≠ Disrespect their schedule;
≠ Hide values and / or beliefs until well into (or late) in the relationship.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Director, Specialist, Investigator.
≠ For them, choose a fellow Director.
≠ For them, choose a Specialist.
≠ For them, choose a Investigator. Top 10 Incompatible. The Director is conservative and traditional and resists change while the Investigator seeks that plus it. The outspoken nature of the Director may prove offensive to the Investigator. The Investigator often needs a lot of emotional validation which the Director is not inclined to give without prompting. Therefore, the Investigator may not feel understood plus be irritated by the dvil’s advocate tendencies. The Director thinks that they are helping to solve the problem, but the Investigator wants a supportive ear. The Investigator is emotionally vulnerable as the Director rarely reciprocates.
≠ For them, choose a Persuader. Top 10 Incompatible. Both are extraverts and judgers meaning that they both love to be around others and tend to follow orders. May be ready to attend the party, the way they see the world is fundamentally different. The Director sticks to strong values that they stick to. (Plus, WYSIWYG). The Persuader is more about changing and evolving. They want to make the world a better place, and that includes their relationships. Where the Director may want to stay the same, the Persuader knows that there is room to improve. Communication method is the biggest issue. It is as if a straightforward Director is speaking a completely different language to someone who wants to understand the full picture first. Both are eager to get their view across as extraverts. These two may be advised to ease the tension by taking a step back and trying understanding their different ways of communication, but research indicaes that they do not tend to make a natural fit.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They know the answer and are the know all.


by Elizabeth Hunter™

2. Developer - ENTJ

The "German Shepherd" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Honesty, energy, intellectual curiosity, thoughtfulness, compassion. Must be able to handle your directness and bluntness.
Look for: A m8 who likes learning and challenge. A m8 who is ready to question the norms, set big goals and work hard to achieve them, to debate theories, concepts and “taboo” concepts such as religion and politics without getting their knickers in a knot.
Not wanted: Wishy-washy behaviour, flattery, laziness, lack of ambition.
As a friend, I am: Brutally honest.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 5%
I am romantic %age: 20%
I am sexual %age: 75%
Ideal date activity: Paintball, outdoor adventures, rock climbing. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Physical Touch.
Secondary: Acts of Service.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
My intellectual confidence and visionary insight make me extremely attractive, especially to those who are seeking direction. I am not afraid of a challenge and my bravery in accomplishing far-reaching objectives makes me extremely attractive. I can seem like a high-powered executive in one meeting and a meditative philosopher at another. People fall for me because of how in-charge and insightful I can be and how deep my loyalty runs.

Response to "How are you?": {Rudely} "I would be better if you were not talking to me."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Well, I was doing fine, until you interrupted me. Any second of interruption that disrupts my workflow severely cuts into my efficiency to get this project done. So because of that, you can piss off now."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Specialist, Agent. The m8 must like work and conflict!

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Agent, Perfectionist.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Practitioner; who will disagree on how to spend spare time.


Dating app bio: Bossy, intense, electric. I don’t have an “off” switch. I’ll take charge of a situation without thinking twice, and I know how to put in the exact amount of work for desired results. I have minimal free time but I make the absolute most of it. I know what I want when I see it. Confidence is sexy, right?


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Avoid deep and / or controversial topics;
≠ Be hypersensitive;
≠ Be insincere and / or phony;
≠ Be late;
≠ Lack ambition, curiosity or drive (=Moxie).
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Counselor, Practitioner.
≠ For them, choose a Counselor.
≠ For them, choose a Practitioner. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker and Feeler. The only trait that is shared is judging, which means that while they are both incredibly organized and skilled at goal-setting, they arre prone to dig in their heels in during a disagreement. The extravert and introvert will disagree about how to spend their free time. The Developer prefers being around others as that is what makes them happiest and most energized while the Practitioner is easily stressed out and drained by too much group socializing. The Developer's straightforward nature can come across as harsh to the Practitioner, causing tension. The Practitioner tends to be more naturally affectionate and, when they do not receive that kind of warmth and emotional connection in return, they may not feel fulfilled in the relationship.
≠ For them, choose an Objective Thinker.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They are life's natural leaders and have high expectations of others.













































by Elizabeth Hunter™

3. Results - ESTP

The "Jack Russell" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Strong sense of adventure and fun, sense of humour, regular challenges (daredevil), explorer, provider of practical support and solutions.
Look for: A m8 who is active and physically engaged with the world around you, somebody who can join you for recreation, gaming or rich sensory experiences.
Not wanted: People who take themselves too seriously or can only see the dark side of life.
As a friend, I am: The party animal.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 35%
I am romantic %age: 15%
I am sexual %age: 50%
Ideal date activity: Best restaurant, best nightclub, expensive bar. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Physical Touch.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Bold and bubbling over with good-humour, people cannot help but love my maverick perspective on life. I challenge you to seize the day and make the most of every opportunity without fear or trepidation. My steady confidence and beguiling charm can make even the most risk-averse individual take a chance on me.

Response to "How are you?": {Insensitively} "I am pretty crappy. How are you?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Awesome, as always. But that’s how you are when you have such an amazing body and life."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Investigator. Enhancer (Not in Oxor™'s view). The m8 must like awesomeness.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Practitioner, Objective Thinker.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Agent; who will not want action.


Dating app bio: The best mistake of your life or the best thing to ever happen to you? “Live for the moment” is my life motto. If I don’t reply, I’m living my life and have totally forgotten about this conversation (sorry, not personal!!!). Message me again with date plans, preferably an hour before they happen.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Try to control them;
≠ Push for commitment too rapidly;
≠ Smother them;
≠ Dawdle and / or waste their time;
≠ Be hypersensitive and / or emotionally reactive;
≠ Shut down their ideas.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Inspirational, Specialist, Agent.
≠ For them, choose an Inspirational.
≠ For them, choose a Specialist.
≠ For them, choose an Agent. Top 10 Incompatible. The party averse Agent will have problems with the extremely outgoing Results. What is worse, is when the Results hits the town without the Agent. This can breed resentment in that the Resukts may feel as if they have to hold back their social urges just to appease the unsatisfiable and whinging Agent. The Results is more focussed on the here and now whereas the Agent is future-oriented, which means they decisions are based on very different information. Additionally, the Agent gets caught up in obsessing over what is the “right” thing to do is, based on their morals and values, whereas the Results is action-oriented and more likely to make quick choices based on whatever the immediate goal is. Not surprisingly, this contrasting approach can put a strain on any relationship over time.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They make the most of every moment and have no filter.
























































by Elizabeth Hunter™

4. Inspirational - ENTP

The "Bull Terrier" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Verbal sparring partner, mentally quick, open-minded, analytical provider of practical support and solutions, wants challenges and possibilities.
Look for: A m8 who is thick skinned who will calling you out if you are wrong or admitting when they are wrong. A m8 who does not mind you being assertive, skeptical and questioning.
Not wanted: People who cannot debate new concepts and theories and come up with exciting life-changing ventures.
As a friend, I am: Funny.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 25%
I am romantic %age: 10%
I am sexual %age: 65%
Ideal date activity: Trying something new. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Quality Time.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
My unique blend of cleverness and curiosity are irresistible to you if you are tired of working within the bounds of the traditional. I am not afraid to toss conventional viewpoints out the window and create a new system for understanding the world. My intellectual bravery paired with my offbeat sense of humour and authentic charm makes me lovable and intriguing to many.

Response to "How are you?": {Not interested in the inquiry} "Fine."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Well…*30 minutes later* And that’s why I think life exists on Mars. Oh, by the way, do you want to see my cool new Minecraft build?

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Practitioner, Objective Thinker. The m8 must like debate.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Investigator, Enhancer.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Specialist; who will want feelings considered.


Dating app bio: Introverted extrovert and true enigma. Will likely disembowel your best arguments, thrill you with banter and charm you to death. I have a billion ideas for date nights and business ventures. (I’ll brainstorm if you For them, choose?) Never boring but always bored. Tell me when to show up and I’m there. Sapiosexual.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Push for commitment too soon;
≠ Try to control them;
≠ Limit their brainstorming and / or debating;
≠ Act self-righteous;
≠ Make rapid judgments.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Inspirational, Specialist, Practitioner.
≠ For them, choose a fellow Inspirational.
≠ For them, choose a Specialist. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker (Inspirational) and Feeler (Specialist) may experience friction as the thinker will prefer to use logic to solve a problem while the feeler will primarily be interested in expressing themselves emotionally.
≠ For them, choose a Practitioner.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They answer the questions, question the answers and are too argumentative.









































































by Elizabeth Hunter™

5. Persuader - ENFJ

The busy "Boxer" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Authentic, intense, empathetic, shared warmth, vision, respect and mutual empathy.
Look for: A m8 who strives to be their best self and is always looking for opportunities to push themselves to reach their potential.
Not wanted: People who will not make an effort and rely on you “make the first move”, pick up the phone or arrange an outing.
As a friend, I am: The emotional supporter.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 35%
I am romantic %age: 15%
I am sexual %age: 50%
Ideal date activity: Charity concert or event, karaoke. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Nil.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
I am loved for so many reasons, but one of the significant things that draws people to me is my warm and empathetic nature. Like an emotional sponge, I sense the feelings and deeper human needs of the people around me. I also sense potential, possibility and unique strengths. I fascinate you when I show you what you are capable of and what tomorrow could bring if you just harnessed your skills instead of sleeping on them. I am there for you on your darkest days and I remind you of how valuable you are. My insight and understanding is incredibly attractive and compelling.

Response to "How are you?": {Shallowly} "I am fine, but you do not look so good though."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Now let's see, I’m not sure. I know how everyone else around the world is feeling, but I don’t know about myself. I guess I feel fine. Nobody says I’m sad or look sad or anything."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Achiever, Perfectionist. The m8 must like a protagonist.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Specialist, Agent.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Objective Thinker; who wants to be reserved and practical.


Dating app bio: Cuddly like a teddy bear. Warm like a ray of sunshine. Inspiring AF. Crazy confident and intense. I never think twice about looking uncool. If I’m not into you, I’ll be upfront and won’t waste your time but if I am into you, get ready: I’ll want to hang out 24/7, have picnic lunches, go to the Farmer’s market, and plan a million fun dates. Probably a touch of an overthinker, so don’t leave me alone to wonder about your level of interest.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be secretive;
≠ Be callous or insensitive;
≠ Be late;
≠ Be a nit-picker or overly critical;
≠ Exclude people in group settings.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Objective Thinker, Persuader, Enhancer.
≠ For them, choose an Objective Thinker. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinking v. Feeling. The Persuader's strength is their ability to tune in to their partner’s needs, wants and moods. May have difficulty bonding with the Objective Thinker on an emotional level, as the Persuader can be a bit detached. The Objective Thinker has difficulty sharing innermost thoughts and feelings which can be frustrating for the Persuader who craves that kind of connection.
≠ For them, choose an Persuader. Top 10 Incompatible. Both are extraverts and judgers meaning that they both love to be around others and tend to follow orders. May be ready to attend the party, the way they see the world is fundamentally different. The Director sticks to strong values that they stick to. (WYSIWYG). The Persuader is more about changing and evolving. They want to make the world a better place, and that includes their relationships. Where the Director may want to stay the same, the Persuader knows that there is room to improve. Communication method is the biggest issue. It is as if a straightforward Director is speaking a completely different language to someone who wants to understand the full picture first. Both are eager to get their view across as extraverts. These two may be advised to ease the tension by taking a step back and trying understanding their different ways of communication, but research indicaes that they do not tend to make a natural fit.
≠ For them, choose an Enhancer.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They articulate, articulate, interfere and are too sensitive.


by Elizabeth Hunter™

6. Appraiser - ESFJ

The "Great Dane" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Intimacy, connection, trust, open and frequent two-way communication, mutual support, empathy.
Look for: A m8 who follows through on plans, is on time, who does not rely on you to be the “scheduler” for every get-together.Who will work on projects, plan for the future, discuss relationships, feelings and favourite experiences.
Not wanted: People who do not put any work into the conversation.
As a friend, I am: The party animal.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 55%
I am romantic %age: 10%
I am sexual %age: 35%
Ideal date activity: Intimate dinner, romantic massage, sports event. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Acts of Service.
Secondary: Quality Time.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
I am caring but capable and I am the place that you just cannot wait to come home to. My practicality and consistency are reassuring and my emotional awareness helps you to feel understood. You are attracted to me because you feel comforted and at peace in my welcoming presence. Just make sure that if you fall for me that you are willing to tend to my needs as carefully as I tend to my own.

Response to "How are you?": {Enthusiastically} "I'm fine, honey. Do you want to come in and have some cookies?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Good! How are you?"

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Perfectionist, Achiever. The m8 must like 'the perfect one'.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Specialist, Achiever.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Enhancer; who wants abstract ideas ahead of socializing.


Dating app bio: Energetic, friendly, the first to show up and the last to leave. When I’m not filling my social calendar, I’m probably spearheading another decorating project, taking care of my nieces and nephews, organizing a work function or generally helping out somewhere. Who said trying hard is a bad thing? I really need a date who can deem to match my level of effort. (No shame.)


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be inconsiderate towards others;
≠ Use their own feelings against them;
≠ Show up late for plans;
≠ Be undependable;
≠ Hide your values and / or beliefs.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Perfectionist, Enhancer.
≠ For them, choose a Perfectionist.
≠ For them, choose an Enhancer. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker (Enhancer) and Feeler (Appraiser) may experience friction due to a thinker’s straightforward nature coming across as harsh to the feeler.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They are the hosts and hostesses of the world and engage in gossip.






























































by Elizabeth Hunter™

7. Promoter - ENFP

The "Golden Retriever" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Someone who is willing to think outside-the-box (mental adventures), explore possibilities and dreams, authentic, honest, not mundane.
Look for: A m8 who gives constructive criticism with compassion and who can let go of what is practical and normal and explore outlandish ideas, creative pursuits and endless theoretical possibilities.
Not wanted: People who play the part to be your friend or not being real with you. Being “bound” by someone else’s world view.
As a friend, I am: Funny.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 30%
I am romantic %age: 40%
I am sexual %age: 30%
Ideal date activity: Trivia, dinner, dancing. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: = Words of Affirmation.
Secondary: = Quality Time.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
I am unconventional and imaginative and make you believe that nothing is impossible. I bring originality to a whole new level and I am not afraid to risk it all to chase after my dreams. My enthusiasm for the world that lies beyond the beaten path is contagious. My presence beckons you into a new adventure, a new idea or a completely transformative way of looking at the world. I bring exploration and possibility wherever I go and this is one of the many reasons that you will fall for me.

Response to "How are you?": {Down at the mouth} "I am terrible. The world is a horrible place. How can you even stand to be here?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "[Is not even paying attention because of a squirrel]. "Uhh, hi!"

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Objective Thinker, Practitioner. The m8 must like chaos.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Investigator, Enhancer.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Achiever; who would want facts placed ahead of feelings.


Dating app bio: Let’s get a drink. Or go for a hike. Or go skydiving. Or all three?! I see possibilities everywhere and will chase every last one of them. Easy-going on the surface with a deep, intense core of hidden emotions. Super-extroverted and super-sensitive. Be my biggest cheerleader and I’ll be yours. Challenge me and I’ll challenge you. Note: Cannot go out in my neighborhood if you want alone time.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be fake;
≠ Pry into their lives;
≠ Stifle their imagination;
≠ Make choices for them;
≠ Push for commitment too soon.
Achiever, Results, Practitioner.
≠ For them, choose an Achiever. Top 10 Incompatible. The Promoter is spontaneous and impulsive (seat of the pants), while the Achiever is anything but (calculated and practical). The Achiever comes across as terse with issues while not with poor intention. They are more interested in presenting the facts and swiftly reaching a resolution. Meanwhile, the Promoter is rather sensitive by nature and may be quickly wounded by the straightforwardness. The Promoter’s highly emotional expressions may prove exhausting for the Achiever.
≠ For them, choose a Results.
≠ For them, choose a Practitioner. Top 10 Incompatible. The Promoter is an idealist who is committed to experiencing new things whereas the risk averse Practitioner loves their stability. The Promoter should not take the lack of enthusiasm to heart; that is inability to express their emotional side. While both take their relationships seriously, the Practitioner isin it for the long haul. If there are any signs of cracks in the relationship, they may call it quits straight away. The Promoter has to take it down a notch to not scare away the Practitioner who needs space. The Investigator has to start opening up a bit more and realize that the long term is also built on more casual conversations as well.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They give life an extra squeeze and are too needy.















by Elizabeth Hunter™

8. Counselor - ESFP

The "Poodle" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Authenticity, adventure and mutual empathy, affection, affirmation, listener, laugh at themselves and you.
Look for: A m8 who is there for you on the good and bad days. Who will appreciate the smell of flowers on a morning breeze or the release of a new song by your favourite band.
Not wanted: People who are arrogant, drama-seekers and people who lack compassion.
As a friend, I am: The party animal.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 20%
I am romantic %age: 60%
I am sexual %age: 20%
Ideal date activity: Club, party bar, dinner at new restaurant. Likes crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Physical Touch.
Secondary: Words of Affirmation.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
I am charismatic, expressive and adventurous. I will win you over with my sincerity and audacity. I put action to my dreams and aspirations; challenging myself to live a life of boldness and fun. Sometimes I have to hold off on my adventures until the weekend, but there is always a new experience just on the horizon with me. You love me because I see the sparkle of opportunity in every moment and a glimmer of humanity in each individual. Life would be a very bleak place without me in the world.

Response to "How are you?": {On the verge of tears, still manages to shriek} "I am so good, like seriously, so good."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Amazing! Want to go to the beach later today, or maybe see a movie, or maybe go to the park, or maybe play video games together at my house? Oh my god! All the possibilities!"

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Enhancer (very doubtful), Investigator. The m8 must like parties.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Practitioner, Objective Thinker.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Perfectionist; who want logic and not emotion.


Dating app bio: Life is one big, messy adventure better shared with an awesome partner at your side. Most people see me as a social butterfly and carefree partier but I’m looking for someone who sees that there’s more than meets the eye. Love my friends, dancing, laughing and getting out there in the world. What’s the most exciting date you can possibly think of? Let’s do that.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Try to control them;
≠ Belittle their feelings;
≠ Pry into their personal lines too quickly;
≠ Shut down their ideas;
≠ Be insincere and / or fake.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Developer, Perfectionist.
≠ For them, choose a Developer.
≠ For them, choose a Perfectionist. Top 10 Incompatible. Trigger each others worst fears. The Perfectionist is easily freaked out when they face emotionally vulnerable scenarios which is a certainty with a Counselor. The Counselor has a tough time coping with disapproval while Perfectionist may not think twice before criticizing as they can take it just as easily as they dish it out as has no fear as it is necessary. However, the Counselor may avoid conflict and is eager to achieve harmony as quickly as possible.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They are a surprise, they love a surprise and are too impulsive.










































by Elizabeth Hunter™

9. Specialist - ISFP

The "Saint Bernard" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Authenticity, compassion, fun, empathy, support, care, being understood.
Look for: A m8 who takes the time to get to know you and who understands that you are not an open book straight away. Who will share their heart with you, be honest with you and find simple pleasures to enjoy with you. e.g. Creativity, writing a song together, colouring in colouring books.
Not wanted: People who require constant stimulation.
As a friend, I am: Funny.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 15%
I am romantic %age: 25%
I am sexual %age: 60%
Ideal date activity: Shopping, fashion, anything unique. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Words of Affirmation.
Secondary: Physical Touch.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Gentle and free-spirited, you are drawn to me because there is something mysterious just beneath my steady gaze. I am a secret that you want to unlock; a story waiting to be told. I do not share my deepest self with everyone I meet; it takes time and trust to coax my dreams and passions out into the open. But when this happens I am full of beautiful aspirations, hopes and a contagious sense of adventure. I manage to be a dreamer with a steady sense of reality and that is incredibly attractive to you.
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Response to "How are you?": {Smiles demurely, adjusts hair} "I am very good, thank you."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Terrible. Life fcuking sucks."

Response to text message example: {From Developer} Q: "Want are you doing?" A: "I'm sorting through my thoughts and translating them into poems. You?"

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Developer, Director (?). The m8 must like someone who enjoys being bossed.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Director (?), Persuader, Appraiser.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: Another Specialist; who does not want constant interaction.


Dating app bio: A mystery wrapped in enigma with an artist’s heart and a humanitarian spirit. The best listener on Earth, bar none. Flexible and down for pretty much anything; I’m interested in having the greatest night of my life and finding the greatest love of my life. Can be hard to pin down at times, but I’m working on it. I fall for personalities, not just looks. If you make me smile, sparks will be off the charts.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Manipulate them;
≠ Impose on their alone time;
≠ Be insincere and / or over flattering;
≠ Belittle their feelings and / or instincts;
≠ Tell them they cannot do something.
≠ Be inconsiderate towards others.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Director, Inspirational, Specialist, Enhancer.
≠ For them, choose a Director.
≠ For them, choose an Inspirational. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker (Inspirational) and Feeler (Specialist) may experience friction as the thinker will prefer to use logic to solve a problem while the feeler) will primarily be interested in expressing themselves emotionally.
≠ For them, choose a fellow Specialist.
≠ For them, choose an Enhancer.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They love living life and are aloof.




































by Elizabeth Hunter™

10. Investigator - INFJ

The "Greyhound" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Authenticity, compassion, vision.
Look for: A m8 who can share their heart with you and who is willing to listen to your deepest feelings. Want someone with a creative mind, is willing to question things, see beyond the confines of the material world and create big dreams and goals. Give you alone time to recharge.
Not wanted: People who attract or seek drama and will not listen.
As a friend, I am: The emotional supporter.
Pump Up Factors™: Complexity, Vision, Psychology, Intellectual conversation, Alone in nature, Silence, Adventure, Reading, Intimate conversation, Creativity.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 60%
I am romantic %age: 17%
I am sexual %age: 23%
Ideal date activity: Talking, debate, intimate dinner, walk in park. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Quality Time.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Underneath my gentle, empathetic demeanor lies a visionary, idealistic soul longing to bring about a better future for the ones I love. You fall for me because you sense my depth and insight. You know that beneath my reserved but friendly persona there is a fiery passion and determination to improve the world. My affection, once gained, is steadfast and loyal and I am emotionally generous and supportive. These are things that make me valued as both a partner and a friend.

Response to "How are you?": {Does not really know how they are and definitely does not want to talk about it} "Fine. And yourself?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} [Tries to analyze the hidden meaning of the message, then gives up because it is simplistic small talk]. “How about I ask how you are, but also tell me about your relationship with your friends and family, as well as your deepest insecurities?"

Response to text message example: {From Counselor} Q: "Do you need anything?" A: "I need 72 hours of sleep, 12 coffees and some clarity."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Results, Counselor. The m8 must like an independent person.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Inspirational, Promoter.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Director; who wants a more conservative type.


Dating app bio: Perfectionistic, quirky, and everybody’s friend. Extroverted introvert with a diverse range of interests. My book shelves are full of novels by women, history texts, science texts and science fiction. I love analyzing the problems of others but I’m still trying to understand myself. I’m always attracted to the rebel but I’ll only commit to someone who “gets” me. Open to all applicants.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be wishy-washy and / or undependable;
≠ Impose on their personal space;
≠ Be passive-aggressive or give the 'silent treatment';
≠ Be inconsiderate and / or impolite or rude;
≠ Avoid deep conversation.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Director.
≠ For them, choose a Director. Top 10 Incompatible. The Director is conservative and traditional and resists change while the Investigator seeks that plus it. The outspoken nature of the Director may prove offensive to the Investigator. The Investigator often needs a lot of emotional validation which the Director is not inclined to give without prompting. Therefore, the Investigator may not feel understood plus be irritated by the dvil’s advocate tendencies. The Director thinks that they are helping to solve the problem, but the Investigator wants a supportive ear. The Investigator is emotionally vulnerable as the Director rarely reciprocates.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They are an inspiration to others and are too private.
















by Elizabeth Hunter™

11. Agent - INFP

The "Tibetan Terrier" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Depth, honesty, connection, authenticity, personal growth.
Look for: A m8 who discuss anything without feeling restricted by outside rules or “propriety”. As an idealist, you crave friends who want to make a difference in the world or who strive to live according to their ethics.
Not wanted: People who do not pursue random paths at will. e.g. the meaning of a song or painting together.
As a friend, I am: The emotional supporter.
Pump Up Factors™: Reading, Art, Music, Writing, Unstructured time, Intimate one-on-one conversations, Brainstorming Travelling, Daydreaming, Animals.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 55%
I am romantic %age: 35%
I am sexual %age: 10%
Ideal date activity: Church, cafe for coffee, walk in the park. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Words of Affirmation.
Secondary: Quality Time.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Pensive and thoughtful, I always have a secret behind my eyes that beckons you to look deeper. My rich imagination and individualistic sense of purpose set me apart. I will make you re-think what you stand for, what really matters in life and what is possible. I invite you to think about what the world could be if we all just stepped outside of narrow, consumer driven perspective. My depth and idealism make me captivating and unforgettable and I am thankful that my pattern is in the world to broaden perspectives and provide an imaginative view.

Response to "How are you?": {Nearly squealing} "It is a beautiful day to be alive!"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Good." [Bbreaks down crying].

Response to text message example: {From Appraiser} Q: "How are you?" A: "That's a tricky question. I feel an array of unexplainable emotions that words cannor describe. It's quite poetic, really."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Director, Developer. The m8 must like a space cadet.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Developer, Persuader.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Results; who wants constant action.


Dating app bio: Appearance: Chillest person in the room who just loves to have a good time. Reality: Probably the most sensitive romantic you’ll ever meet. I’ll definitely take rejection personally. I have tons of interests; travel, poetry readings, indie bands you’ve never heard of, quaint dive bars in new cities and meeting people with quirky humor and style. Dating is like an extreme sport for my emotions and I ultimately can’t wait to find The One (aka another weirdo who just gets me).


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be insincere and / or over flattering;
≠ Impose on their personal space;
≠ Try to control them;
≠ Pry into their emotions too quickly;
≠ Act in callous fashion to others' pain or misfortune.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Results.
≠ For them, choose a Results. Top 10 Incompatible. The party averse Agent will have problems with the extremely outgoing Results. What is worse, is when the Results hits the town without the Agent. This can breed resentment in that the Resukts may feel as if they have to hold back their social urges just to appease the unsatisfiable and whinging Agent. The Results is more focussed on the here and now whereas the Agent is future-oriented, which means they decisions are based on very different information. Additionally, the Agent gets caught up in obsessing over what is the “right” thing to do is, based on their morals and values, whereas the Results is action-oriented and more likely to make quick choices based on whatever the immediate goal is. Not snsurprisingly, this contrasting approach can put a strain on any relationship over time.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They do not fall in love with a person. They fall in love with the idea of the person. When their partner drifts away from the perfect image, they start to fall out of love.



by Elizabeth Hunter™

12. Achiever - ISTP

The "Bassett Hound" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Trust, respect, shared exhilarating experiences, fun.
Look for: A m8 who laughs at themselves, challenges themselves, engages in some friendly mental sparring, who is up for recreational pursuits, games or hands-on projects. You like toying with ideas, but you want those ideas to have a practical application.
Not wanted: People who theorise to no real purpose and who need constant hand-holding or emotional support. Those who do not give alone time or make you feel guilty for that.
As a friend, I am: Brutally honest.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 38%
I am romantic %age: 22%
I am sexual %age: 40%
Ideal date activity: Racing, skydiving, motorcycling, surfing etc. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: = Acts of Service.
Secondary: = Quality Time.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
People fall for me partly because I am so mysterious and self-sufficient. There is nothing desperate or clingy about my independent, lone-wolf way of life. My knowledge and street smarts are impressive and I am surprisingly helpful and supportive during situations that call for logical problem-solving. There is something about my rugged, spontaneous lifestyle that hints of excitement and thrilling stories just waiting to be told.

Response to "How are you?": {Steps into your bubble, makes uncomfortable eye contact} "I am very good now that you are here."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} [Continues to work on fixing something without answering the question. Gets asked again and proceeds to walk away].

Response to text message example: {From Objective Thinker} Q: "Come over later?" A: "Oh, hey, sorry. I'm actually deep into the forest right now and staying here for a few months. Sorry."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Persuader, Appraiser. The m8 must like a workaholic.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Director, Appraiser.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Promoter; who will want to fly by the seat of their pants.


Dating app bio: Rarely check this thing. Off rock climbing, hiking, biking, skiing, surfing, running or hanging with my friends. Hit me up if you want to hang.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Bombard them with text messages;
≠ Impose on their alone time;
≠ Be hypersensitive and / or emotionally reactive;
≠ Try to control them;
≠ Be oblivious to reality. e.g. Drive below the speed limit; make unfounded judgments.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Promoter.
≠ For them, choose a Promoter. Top 10 Incompatible. The Promoter is spontaneous and impulsive (seat of the pants), while the Achiever is anything but (calculated and practical). The Achiever comes across as terse with issues while not with poor intention. They are more interested in presenting the facts and swiftly reaching a resolution. Meanwhile, the Promoter is rather sensitive by nature and may be quickly wounded by the straightforwardness. The Promoter’s highly emotional expressions may prove exhausting for the Achiever.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They can find the shortcut to anything and are insensitive.





































by Elizabeth Hunter™

13. Practitioner - ISFJ

The "Alaskan Malamute" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Peaceful, harmonious, full of shared trust, empathy, loyalty in good and bad times.
Look for: A m8 who can take interest in your favourite hobbies and interests and find humour in everyday situations. Someone with whom you can really bare your soul who will not judge you or jump in with a bunch of unsolicited advice.
Not wanted: People who are late, speak badly about people behind their backs, drama queens.
As a friend, I am: The emotional supporter.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 20%
I am romantic %age: 60%
I am sexual %age: 20%
Ideal date activity: Whatever the Practitioner wants to do. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Acts of Service.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Often reserved, I tend to stay in the background on many occasions. But to the person who loves me, the gentleness and capability I bring to every situation is exceedingly attractive. I care with a devotion and empathy that is staggering. I have a sense of loyalty, responsibility and compassion that colours every decision that I make. All these qualities may not sum up the true essence of why people love me. Whatever it is may be far beyond this, including that I am a follower. But these are just some of the things that make people stop and notice me.

Response to "How are you?": {Is really doing okay, really does want to know how you are} "I am doing okay. How are you?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "I’m doing fine, tell me, do you have anything I can take care of? I’ll make you cookies. I’ll mow your lawn. I know you’re probably not feeling great but, even if you are, I want to make you feel even greater."

Response to text message example: {From Results} Q: "Want to do something tonight?" A: "Sorry. I made plans to make something tasty and eat it all by myself."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Investigator, Promoter (?). The m8 must like avoiding conflict, hearing 'the expert' and passive-aggressiveness.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Results, Counselor.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Promoter; who will want to experience new things.


Dating app bio: Romantic, dreamer, big heart and lots of soul — or so I’m told. Traditionalist in nature, but looking for someone who will challenge me to step outside the box (and make me feel safer in the process). I love old movies, reading on rainy days and deep conversations. My friends convinced me to download this app and I’m not into hookups. Down for a date, but I appreciate when someone else takes the lead.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Embarrass them or put them on the spot;
≠ Disregard their feelings;
≠ Be inconsiderate towards others;
≠ Be late and / or undependable;
≠ Be passive-aggressive and / or secretive.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Inspirational, Developer, Promoter.
≠ For them, choose an Inspirational.
≠ For them, choose a Developer. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker and Feeler. The only trait that is shared is judging, which means that while they are both incredibly organized and skilled at goal-setting, they arre prone to dig in their heels in during a disagreement. The extravert and introvert will disagree about how to spend their free time. The Developer prefers being around others as that is what makes them happiest and most energized while the Practitioner is easily stressed out and drained by too much group socializing. The Developer's straightforward nature can come across as harsh to the Practitioner, causing tension. The Practitioner tends to be more naturally affectionate and, when they do not receive that kind of warmth and emotional connection in return, they may not feel fulfilled in the relationship.
≠ For them, choose a Promoter. Top 10 Incompatible. The Promoter is an idealist who is committed to experiencing new things whereas the risk averse Practitioner loves their stability. The Promoter should not take the lack of enthusiasm to heart; that is inability to express their emotional side. While both take their relationships seriously, the Practitioner isin it for the long haul. Ifthere are any signs of cracks in the relationship, they may call it quits straight away. The Promoter has to take it down a notch to not scare away the Practitioner who needs space. The Practitioner has to start opening up a bit more and realize that the long term is also built on more casual conversations as well.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They work behind the scenes and are too set in their own views.


by Elizabeth Hunter™

14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ

The "Bernese Mountain Dog" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Down-to-earth, intellectually curious and responsible.
Look for: A m8 who appreciates people who are thoughtful, attentive and conscientious. Once you have committed to a friendship you are usually very loyal and you expect reciprocity. One authentic lifelong friend is preferred to a handful of shallow relationships.
Not wanted: People who are late. Whose friendship cannot be relied on in times of difficulty.
As a friend, I am: Brutally honest.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 55%
I am romantic %age: 30%
I am sexual %age: 15%
Ideal date activity: Chess, trivial pursuit, golf, computer games. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Acts of Service.
Secondary: Quality Time.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Principled and loyal, I have a grounded nature that is reassuring and attractive. While some patterns are drawn to bombastic, showy individuals, others find my understated elegance and pragmatic outlook compelling. I move forward in life with a sense of competence, but also caution. I am not going to rush headlong into something without first assessing all the facts and details. My focus and attentiveness are not limited to impersonal tasks either. What many love about me is how gentle and careful I am with the ones I care about. I would risk anything to protect the individuals who I love and that integrity and commitment is deeply attractive to you.

Response to "How are you?": {Gruffly} "I am alive aren’t I?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Terrible because you are socializing with me."

Response to text message example: {From Achiever} Q: "Want to head to the beach?" A: "Beach, hmmm. I'll check the weather, the UV Index and the shark warnings and then get back to you."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Promoter, Inspirational. Oxor™ says Enhancer. The m8 must like dealing in facts.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Results, Counselor.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Persuader; who is too warm, compassionate and driven by emotion.


Dating app bio: Responsible, stable, looking for a partner-in-crime. Home owner. Will show up exactly on time, all the time. Will plan an awesome, thoughtful date. Can’t be bothered to go out on a string of casual dates so will probably give up on the apps eventually. But I’m totally invested in relationships with substance and potential if you’re into that sort of thing.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Be wishy-washy and / or unpredictable;
≠ Put them on the spot;
≠ Disrespect their values and / or possessions;
≠ Be secretive and / or passive-aggressive;
≠ Be hypersensitive and / or emotionally turbulent;
≠ Be impractical and / or unrealistic.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Director, Persuader.
≠ For them, choose a Director.
≠ For them, choose a Persuader. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinking v. Feeling. The Persuader's strength is their ability to tune in to their partner’s needs, wants and moods. May have difficulty bonding with the Objective Thinker on an emotional level, as the Persuader can be a bit detached. The Objective Thinker has difficulty sharing innermost thoughts and feelings which can be frustrating for the Persuader who craves that kind of connection.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They know rules, rituals, regulations and are unwilling to compromise.














































by Elizabeth Hunter™

15. Perfectionist - INTP

The "Papillon" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Authenticity, curiosity, truth, listen, mutual freedom and respect.
Look for: A m8 who gives you space, yet comes together for a meeting of the minds, a friendly debate, or an exploration of a theoretical concept. Directness and precision is a must as is enjoying discussing abstractions and theories and figuring out how things work or solving puzzles.
Not wanted: People who “guilt trip” you if you need some time alone. But who will invite you to events.
As a friend, I am: Brutally honest.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 50%
I am romantic %age: 35%
I am sexual %age: 15%
Ideal date activity: Bridge, chess, word games. Avoid crowds.

Love Language!
Primary: Quality Time.
Secondary: Acts of Service.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
Intellectually determined and vividly imaginative, I make you think twice about concepts or rules that you have taken for granted. My never-ending quest for the truth and my fearlessness in breaking apart inaccuracies and destructive social constructs is intriguing. But I am not all theories and analysis. Underneath the flurry of mental activity that surrounds me lies an intensely loving, devoted heart.

Response to "How are you?": {Believing the time is being measured with the calendar} "Physically, I am doing fair. I have had the adequate fluids and nutrition today but I have a slightly upset stomach. Emotionally, I am above average because the new computer game comes out today and I have purchased an advanced copy. However, mentally I am very poor because it has been a really stressful quarter at work and my boss is requiring things of me that are humanly impossible. How are you?"
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} [Quietly ponders how to answer the question without coming off as a socially awkward loser]. "Uhh...."

Response to text message example: {From Inspirational} Q: "Ummm, hello are you still there?" A: "Don't you get the hint? I'm ignoring you on purpose."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Appraiser, Persuader. The m8 must like the absent minder professor.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Director, Developer.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Counselor; who will take criticism personally.


Dating app bio: If you can pull me away from my philosophy books and scientific theories, I’m a pretty low-key date. I know exactly what I’m looking for; love isn’t that hard to figure out. It’s just a chemical reaction, commitment to grow the relationship and desire to keep showing up for your partner.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Bombard them with text messages;
≠ Impose on their required alone time;
≠ Be passive-aggressive when there is an issue;
≠ Assume that they are insensitive or uncaring when they do not know the right thing to say.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Appraiser, Counselor.
≠ For them, choose an Appraiser.
≠ For them, choose a Counselor. Top 10 Incompatible. Trigger each others worst fears. The Perfectionist is easily freaked out when they face emotionally vulnerable scenarios which is a certainty with a Counselor. The Counselor has a tough time coping with disapproval while Perfectionist may not think twice before criticizing as they can take it just as easily as they dish it out as has no fear as it is necessary. However, the Counselor may avoid conflict and is eager to achieve harmony as quickly as possible.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They incubate ideas but are seemingly detached.











































by Elizabeth Hunter™

16. Enhancer - INTJ

The "Lone Wolf" needs this mate or relationship


m8!
Required basics: Deep intellectual conversation, adventure, mutual respect, creative, questioning, deeply authentic.
Look for: A m8 who also has their own goals and interests and does not need constant stimulation from you. You like to dissect theories with your friends, pull ideas apart and figure out which ones hold up to scrutiny. You like to let loose sometimes and do something recreational or spend time outdoors.
You do not struggle to find relationships. What happens is that you have five key friends, who do not drain you. You are very selective who you let close. You struggle to find key friends. You may have had a strong dating history, but they were mostly choosing you and were often soul draining extraverts. And not very intellectual such as the Appraiser, Director and Counselor. It is difficult to find someone compatible with your thinking style as you are the hardest to get to know.
Not wanted: People who are emotionally needy or overwhelming as you need a large personal space.
As a friend, I am: Funny. But Oxor™ disagrees - Oxor™ says Reliable.
Pump Up Factors™: Future, Strategy, Solitude, Reading, Classes, Technology, Philosophy, Art, Alone in nature, Eliminating chaos.


Date!
I am lovable %age: 40%
I am romantic %age: 35%
I am sexual %age: 25%
Ideal date activity: Board games, video games, trivia, anything strategy. Avoid crowds and noise.

Love Language!
Primary: Acts of Service.
Secondary: Nil.

Fall in love; you will get this from me!
My mind is a fascinating place full of theories, possibilities and predictions. I draw you into my intellectual curiosity and make you wonder about things that you have always taken for granted. But I am not only focussed on thoughts and musings. I am someone who puts action to my strategies and plans. I make things happen and are unstoppable in pursuit of my objectives. You love me because I do not just want to make the world more efficient, I want to understand it and improve it for the people that I love.

Response to "How are you?": {Indifferently, as bored and not interested in the inquiry} "Meh."
Response to "How are you?": {With contempt} "Why do we even ask this question anyway? Who was the first person in the world to say this exact phrase and what was the response? It could answer a lot of questions about the nature of conversation and its purpose in life."

Response to text message example: {From Promoter} Q: "Hey. What's new?" A: "I just enrolled in another on-line course. Cannot talk now; busy."

m8maker™ Ver. 1: Counselor, Results. Oxor™ says Objective Thinker is best. The m8 must like an independent person.

m8maker™ Ver. 2: Inspirational, Promoter. Oxor™ disagrees with this conclusion.

m8failure™ Ver. 1: The Achiever; who will continually chatter.


Dating app bio: Sarcastic. Imaginative. Calculated. Basically cotton candy locked inside a steel cage. I’ve got one flawless vision of the future with a carefully-plotted plan to get there and my perpetually neutral, borderline-chilly facial expression is entirely unintentional. Looking for an intellectually stimulating partner-in-crime. Don’t waste my time and I won’t waste yours.


Do these for guaranteed RELATIONSHIP FAILURE with this pattern:
≠ Bombard them with text messages;
≠ Impose on their alone time;
≠ Be hypersensitive and / or emotionally reactive;
≠ Make assumptions about them;
≠ Disrespect or make last minute changes to their schedule;
≠ Be insincere or phony;
≠ Give the slightest hint that you are actually an idiot.
≠ Failure Patterns Summary - Persuader, Counselor, Appraiser, Enhancer.
≠ For them, choose a Persuader.
≠ For them, choose a Counselor.
≠ For them, choose a Appraiser. Top 10 Incompatible. Thinker (Enhancer) and Feeler (Appraiser) may experience friction due to a thinker’s straightforward nature coming across as harsh to the feeler.
≠ For them, choose a fellow Enhancer.
≠ See more in special section at the foot of this page.


Be aware of the Local Descriptor™ (P R of Aus): They can improve anything and are cold.















by Elizabeth Hunter™

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Marriage, Romance and Friendship Prospects™

1. Director - ESTJ This Choleric-Melancholic pattern believes in the infallibility of law and order. They are Obsessive-Compulsive who understand that we are all just small parts of a whole and everyone should do their part for the betterment of everyone. They like to lead by example.
Go and try to marry the following:
Results; Appraiser; Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Specialist; Achiever.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Natural leaders, but might boss their friends around unintentionally.
2. Might stick to routines like glue, resisting spontaneity.
3. Value honesty, but might come off as blunt or insensitive.
4. Their practical approach might clash with more abstract thinkers.
5. Could be too focussed on goals, forgetting to chill.
6. Others might say: "I tried it but it did not work. They did not respond well to authority."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They used to brag about their excellent memory then karma rewarded them with dementia.

2. Developer - ENTJ This Melancholic Pure pattern is the extremist who would rather die than update their operating system. They would never leave their comfort zone and would do anything to protect it.
Go and try to marry the following:
Enhancer (We disagree); Inspirational; Persuader.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Agent; Perfectionist.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Natural leaders, but might come off as a bit too authoritative.
2. Could be super competitive, turning even friendly hangouts into battles.
3. Might have a hard time admitting when they are wrong.
4. Can be workaholics, leaving less ambitious friends behind.
5. Their drive for success might make them seem a bit distant.
6. Others might say: "If they would just put their mind to it, they could be brilliant. Maybe some medication would help?"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Got assassinated by an angry Achiever.

3. Results - ESTP This Choleric-Sanguine pattern is the person who puts their money where their mouth is. They talk and act big, they think that words are cheap and action speaks louder than words.
Go and try to marry the following:
Director; Counselor; Investigator.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Practitioner; Objective Thinker.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Life of the party, but might be all about the here and now.
2. Could get bored easily and chase new adventures without warning.
3. Their risk-taking could stress out more cautious friends.
4. Might be a bit competitive, turning fun into a challenge.
5. Could have trouble with long-term commitments, even in friendships.
6. Others might say: "I find them intelligent, but so naive!"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Guys! Watch this!

4. Inspirational - ENTP This Sanguine-Choleric pattern is the devil or is a lawyer, which is more or less the same thing. They will not lose any debate so do not bother trying.
Go and try to marry the following:
Developer; Persuader; Promoter.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Investigator; Enhancer.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Mega witty, but might use sarcasm that is a bit too much.
2. They debate for fun, even when it is not fun for others.
3. Could change their plans on a whim, leaving friends hanging.
4. Might seem a bit disorganized and chaotic to more structured friends.
5. So focussed on ideas they could forget the emotional side.
6. Others might say: "I love them!"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Made a lot of people mad and got murdered.

5. Persuader - ENFJ This Choleric-Phlegmatic pattern is the person who is willing to stand in front of a tank in the name of justice, freedom and other cheesy words that protects the rights of the weak. They are great public speakers and are not afraid to speak their mind.
Go and try to marry the following:
Persuader; Promoter; Inspirational. (An SJW enclave!!)
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Agent; Perfectionist.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Crazily empathetic, but might absorb others' emotions like a sponge.
2. Can be so focussed on helping, they forget their own well-being.
3. Might push their beliefs a bit too strongly on friends, including gross interference.
4. Could get overwhelmed by their social circles and commitments, reneg on them and become very narky when held to account.
5. Might put others' needs before their own, to a fault, but get you to do the legwork which they will never do in return.
o 6. Others might say: "I think they are some kind of a loose cannon, but I think I can fix it."br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Tried to “change” a serial killer and got fatally stabbed.

6. Appraiser - ESFJ This Sanguine-Melancholic pattern is your kind and rich grandmother. She will spoil and love you and even burn the world for you to protect you from harm. But she will beat you silly with a stick if you get your hand caught in the cookie jar.
Go and try to marry the following:
Director; Results; Achiever.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Specialist; Achiever.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super caring, but might smother friends unintentionally.
2. Might avoid conflict at all costs, leading to unspoken issues.
3. Can be so eager to please, they lose themselves in the process.
4. Could get caught up in others' dramas, forgetting their own needs.
5. Might have a hard time saying "no," even when they should.
6. Others might say: "I cannot understand why others like them."br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Died from third degree burns after saving their pets from a house fire.

7. Promoter - ENFP This Sanguine-Phlegmatic pattern are your crazy people who believe in energies, auras and soul-whatevers. They see the world as one living being and are deeply spiritual. They believe there is more to everything (including a piece of rock) than meets the eye.
Go and try to marry the following:
Developer; Perfectionist; Enhancer (We totally disagree.)
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Investigator; Enhancer (What a joke!).
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Enthusiastic and energetic, but have a micro and scattered attention span.
2. Can get super passionate about ideas, even if they change them tomorrow.
3. Might struggle with commitments including bouncing between friends.
4. Could get so caught up in others' lives that they neglect their own.
5. Love the deep talks, but might avoid the practical stuff and will never ever reciprocate so all favours to them must be treated as donations!
6. Others might say: "I love their ideas!"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Overdosed on hard drugs while trying to interchange thoughts or feelings with the universe.

8. Counselor - ESFP This Sanguine Pure pattern is the charming happy-go-lucky one who are fun, loud and crowd-pleasing. They light up the room with their presence and are always looking for trouble.
Go and try to marry the following:
Results; Appraiser; Specialist.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Practitioner; Objective Thinker.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super outgoing, but might be a bit impulsive.
2. Could be dramatic and intense, turning up the emotions.
3. They love the spotlight, which could overshadow quieter friends.
4. Might need constant excitement, leaving others exhausted.
5. Could be so focussed on the present that they forget future plans.
6. Others might say: "I feel a bit disappointed, but I will try again. They will warm up to me!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Found dead in an abandoned service station wearing nothing but 3D glasses; no markings or signs of struggle. Death remains a mystery.

9. Specialist - ISFP This Phlegmatic-Sanguine pattern is the one who sees all the beauty in the world and more. They are also very interesting to have as a sexual partner. They probably invented the you only live once culture.
Go and try to marry the following:
Appraiser; Counselor; Practitioner (Really?).
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Director; Appraiser.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Crazily creative, but might get lost in their own world.
2. Could avoid conflict even when it needs to be addressed.
3. Might have mood swings that leave friends a bit confused.
4. Super private, might not open up easily.
5. Might be so chilled out that they seem disinterested, but they are not.
6. Others might say: "I found them fun! But ouch! But fun!"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Tried to cure their own illness with witchcraft and failed.

10. Investigator - INFJ This Melancholic-Phlegmatic pattern are saints.
Go and try to marry the following:
Agent; Objective Thinker; Enhancer.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Deep thinkers, which might come off as distant or mysterious. They may transcend traditional categorizations and dichotomies by claiming that knowledge is at once relative and absolute, subjective and objective, temporal and eternal, etc. To the rational mind, which relishes and even relies on such dichotomies, this can be extremely difficult to swallow.
2. They can see potential in people, even when it is not there.
3. Might go missing in action when they are lost in their thoughts.
4. Keep feelings hidden, making it hard for others to gauge what is up.
5. Their idealistic nature might clash with the real world.
6. Others might say: "I do not like them much. But I think they are interesting."br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Sacrificed themselves to make a political statement.

11. Agent - INFP This Phlegmatic Pure pattern is the empathic and caring motherly type that wants world peace and to save the starving children in Africa.
Go and try to marry the following:
Persuader; Investigator; Practitioner.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Developer (What a joke); Persuader.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Dreamers for sure, but reality might hit them hard sometimes.
2. Might have ideals that do not match up with the real world.
3. Could get lost in their emotions and need some space.
4. Finds it hard to make decisions when their values are all tangled.
5. Sometimes they are so focussed on others, they forget themselves.
6. Others might say: "Who broke them?"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Procrastinated about an appointment call for too long and died of cancer.

12. Achiever - ISTP This Melancholic-Sanguine pattern are either mad scientists or tradies.
Go and try to marry the following:
Counselor; Specialist; Agent.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Director; Appraiser.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Independent to the max, might seem distant.
2. Their love for adventure could lead to unpredictable plans.
3. Might struggle with commitment, both in plans and emotions.
4. Could be a bit blunt, not always considering feelings.
5. Hard to read sometimes, leaving others wondering what is up.
6. Others might say: "I loved talking about x with them. I am sure they would love to hear the three hour lecture! Where did they go?"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Died from lung cancer from smoking and did not even try to quit.

13. Practitioner - ISFJ This Phlegmatic-Melancholic pattern is a future recipient for a posthumous award for the Medal of Honour. You can expect them to be loyal as a German Shepherd and bite like them too.
Go and try to marry the following:
Appraiser; Soecialist; Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Results; Counselor. Failure guaranteed.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super caring, but might overextend themselves and feel drained.
2. Can be a bit shy at first, making it tough to break the ice.
3. Will hold onto past stuff, causing unnecessary tension.
4. Struggle to say "no," so boundaries could get blurred especially when criticized or in conflict and easily become passive-aggressive.
5. Could be too focused on others' needs, forgetting their own.
6. Others might say: "I think that they are next to inert."br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: The first person to reach 200 years old and died of a heart attack when they found out that they broke the world record.

14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ This Choleric Pure pattern is what happens when the school nerd becomes a billionaire. They are ultra smart, analytical and dislike horse manure.
Go and try to marry the following:
Investigator; Achiever; Practitioner. We think Enhancer.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. They keep it real, sometimes a little too real.
2. Hard to switch up plans once they are set, so spontaneity might trip them up.
3. Can be all about routines, not always down for wild adventures.
4. Might hold back emotions, making it tough to connect on a deeper level.
5. Their practicality could come off as a bit harsh to others.
6. Others might say: "Um, why are they so slow off the mark?"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They worked themselves to death.

15. Perfectionist - INTP This Phlegmatic-Choleric pattern is someone who wants to find a cure for cancer because they can. They would do what they can to make the world a better place for everyone through innovation.
Go and try to marry the following:
Inspirational; Promoter; Agent.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Developer; Persuader.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Brilliant minds, but can be lost in thought 24/7. Terrible finishers as there is always a bit more to be done.
2. Might struggle with social cues and small talk.
3. They value their personal space and alone time like crazy.
4. Might debate a point about which they are very interested just for the heck of it, even with friends.
5. Could seem distant, but it is just their thinking face.
6. Others might say: "I though that they were super intelligent, but more like a puppy. What a flake!"br> 7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: On the one day they decided to go outside, they got hit by a car.

16. Enhancer - INTJ This Melancholic-Choleric pattern are confusing people who say and do different things at any given time. But it works. They are the pattern who would go beyond boundaries to achieve their goal; they probably coined the phrase. The end justifies the means.
Go and try to marry the following:
Agent (You would have to be joking); Investigator; Perfectionist; We think Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter. (Both will be a disaster).
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Full of big ideas, might overlook the little details; will not tolerate small talk.
2. Not the best at emotional stuff, so connecting can be a challenge.
3. Can be stubborn and want things done their way.
4. Might drop some brutally honest truths, even if others are not ready.
5. Sometimes they are just too logical for the touchy-feely stuff.
6. Others might say: "I thought they were so unsocial and showed a total dislike of wishywashy small talk!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They had no idea that they had cancer until it was too late.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment A™:

Do you crave someone who is always bursting with ideas? Do innovation, imagination and non-conformity turn you on?

Go and try to date the following:

Promoter; Inspirational; Agent; Perfectionist.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment B™:

Do you crave someone who has an insightful eye into people and situations? Do intense, visionary, big picture people excite you?

Go and try to date the following:

Investigator; Enhancer; Persuader; Developer.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment C™:

Do you crave someone who is energetic, fun-loving and adventurous? Do quick-witted people who live for today turn you on?

Go and try to date the following:

Counselor; Results; Specialist; Achiever.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment D™:

Do you crave someone who is steady, grounded and dependable? Do detail-oriented, down-to-earth people make you feel happiest?

Go and try to date the following:

Practitioner; Objective Thinker; Appraiser; Director.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment E™:

Do you crave someone who follows their heart over following the crowd? Are you attracted to people who have rich and complex understandings of the world and do not mind marching to the beat of their own drum?

Go and try to date the following:

Agent; Specialist; Promoter; Counselor.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment F™:

Do you crave someone who exudes friendliness and consideration? Do you like people who take care of other people’s needs and place a high value on tactfulness and harmony?

Go and try to date the following:

Appraiser; Persuader; Practitioner; Investigator.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment G™:

Do you crave someone who has a logical, pragmatic frame of mind? Do you like people who are direct, decisive and organized?

Go and try to date the following:

Director; Developer; Objective Thinker; Enhancer.

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment H™:

Do you crave someone who is as obsessed with truth and understanding as you are? Do you like people who are analytical, curious and precise?

Go and try to date the following:

Achiever; Perfectionist; Results; Inspirational.

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Cravings Matcher™ - Introvert intuitives

Craving Segment I™:

Do you have no friends?

The Agent, Investigator, Perfectionist and Enhancer are the most likely to have no friends. Oxor™ has observed cases of all four without friends. We reckon that the Investigator is the most likely to have friends, followed by the Agent with the Enhancer and the Perfectionist the least likely, in that order, in a photo finish.

All these four are the patterns who have only a handful of guests at their birthday parties... or have no birthday parties at all. Yes! We are pretty right there!

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Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment J™:

Do very intelligent people go best with a not so intelligent best friend?

With friends, it has been observed that for two people to be good friends, they need to be within one standard deviation of the IQ of each other. For example, if someone has an IQ of 160, standard deviation 15, they can be friends with people with IQs of 145 to 175. Therefore, a very intelligent person will be likely to have a very intelligent person as a best friend.

There is also the issue of a communication range where a person can only really have meaningful and mentally stimulating conversations and interactions with someone within two standard deviations. Therefore, if someone has an IQ of 160, they can only have fun talking to someone with an IQ between 130 and 190.

See also Noetic Explorer™ for more on IQ - Click Here

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Special Section for the Enhancer

The Awful Partner Criteria for the Enhancer.

Elizabeth Hunter™, the composer of Oxor™; was interviewed at the Gin Palace by Stratton Oakmont™. Elizabeth is the classic lifetime proven Enhancer; claims she was that when in the womb.

1. A needy partner that requires lots of validation, attention and proof of love. Drop the Persuader, Appraiser, Promoter, Counselor.

2. A controlling partner that needs to know what you are doing, reading, working on and who looks over your shoulder to see what you are reading, watching or writing. Drop the Director.

3. A closed minded partner, one that refuses to see others’ point of view or educate themselves before expressing an opinion or that refuses to acknowledge proof that they are incorrect. This includes when beliefs are confused with facts. These are the Idealists / Social Justice Warriors. Drop the Persuader, Promoter, Investigator, Agent.

4. Dumb; in the sense of lack of know how. Drop the Perfectionist, Agent.

5. A stupid partner. I am smart, but want my partner being more smart. Loves to learn things, loves to mind-flow, a dumber partner can not give these things. Drop the Practitioner who is a follower only.

6. A partner who wants a boss 25/8. While I am strong and independent most of the time, in the relationship' field I hate being “the boss” all of the time. Drop the arty Specialist.

7. A too arrogant partner. I am arrogant a little. There is only room for the one Enhancer and that is me. Drop the Enhancer.

8. A 'Sensor' partner. Hard pass. Yes, all of them except the Objective Thinker. Drop the Director, Appraiser, Results, Counselor, Specialist and Achiever. The Achiever has the worst temper and is always buggering around fixing things or making a battery operated cooking foil dispenser, or similar.

9. An 'Extravert' partner (Patterns 1-8). While they can be exhausting, they are great for self-development and going outside for once. But that is not a relationship.

10. An 'Introvert' except the Objective Thinker. While they are obviously on the same wavelength as me; there is less need for explanations regarding not going outside, but some are problematic when it comes to developing interpersonal skills.

11. Introversion is the most valuable trait in a partner/friend/colleague etc. Totally less need for explanation as to what is going on inside the head. They either know, or they ask good questions - Objective Thinker.

12. The Thinkers can be good, but can become excessive since the Enhancer has both introverted intuition and extroverted thinking.
The Developer is useful but they will not understand that that an Enhancer's work ethic involves regular naps or time alone and would never interact anyway because they would be working 100+ hours per week. Drop.
The Practitioner represents a total stalemate, is a follower and is totally boring. Drop.
The Inspirational is too cool and Machiavellian which makes them problematic. Drop.
The Perfectionist gives me intelligence envy combined with total impatience due to an absence of practical skills. Drop.

13. The Feelers can be great for balance as long as they are not above average in neuroticism. The Practitioner and Agent score very well in complaining and not offering solutions (whiners), plus they are generally miserable.

15. A conclusion, from Oxor™ research, seems to be that the Promoter and the Persuader are a good match. My experience is that Promoters are totally unreliable and have a micro attention span while the Persuader has the propensity to always interfere; both of which I cannot stand. So it is the Objective Thinker that is the one for me.

16. A team of Enhancer / Investigator appears almost unbeatable, except if they are not careful they will have an argument where the Investigator will propose some golden shining thing of perfect morality and the Enhancer will go, “Bulltish, yeah, as if you will ever convince humans to go along with that,” and they will then wind up not speaking to each other.
Alternatively, they will avoid that pitfall and instead talk until they die of starvation or sleep deprivation or until some Sensing person takes pity on them and makes them eat and sleep.

17. The Enhancer does not keep friends, friends keep them. It sounds bad and selfish but it is not. The Enhancer cannot pursue friendships in the way the majority do. They do not call, do not compliment, do not intervene, do not organize, do not invite. But if you are a person they care for and admire, they listen when you call, they help you when you ask and they go when you invite. They do not judge you, do not try to control you, do not put conditions on friendship, are not needy, do not demand your time or attention, are here for you no matter when was the last time they saw you or talked to you and are drama free.

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