Marriage, Romance and Friendship Prospects™

1. Director - ESTJ This Choleric-Melancholic pattern believes in the infallibility of law and order. They are Obsessive-Compulsive who understand that we are all just small parts of a whole and everyone should do their part for the betterment of everyone. They like to lead by example.
Go and try to marry the following:
Results; Appraiser; Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Specialist; Achiever.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Natural leaders, but might boss their friends around unintentionally.
2. Might stick to routines like glue, resisting spontaneity.
3. Value honesty, but might come off as blunt or insensitive.
4. Their practical approach might clash with more abstract thinkers.
5. Could be too focussed on goals, forgetting to chill.
6. Others might say: "I tried it but it did not work. They did not respond well to authority."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They used to brag about their excellent memory then karma rewarded them with dementia.

2. Developer - ENTJ This Melancholic Pure pattern is the extremist who would rather die than update their operating system. They would never leave their comfort zone and would do anything to protect it.
Go and try to marry the following:
Enhancer (We disagree); Inspirational; Persuader.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Agent; Perfectionist.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Natural leaders, but might come off as a bit too authoritative.
2. Could be super competitive, turning even friendly hangouts into battles.
3. Might have a hard time admitting when they are wrong.
4. Can be workaholics, leaving less ambitious friends behind.
5. Their drive for success might make them seem a bit distant.
6. Others might say: "If they would just put their mind to it, they could be brilliant. Maybe some medication would help?"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Got assassinated by an angry Achiever.

3. Results - ESTP This Choleric-Sanguine pattern is the person who puts their money where their mouth is. They talk and act big, they think that words are cheap and action speaks louder than words.
Go and try to marry the following:
Director; Counselor; Investigator.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Practitioner; Objective Thinker.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Life of the party, but might be all about the here and now.
2. Could get bored easily and chase new adventures without warning.
3. Their risk-taking could stress out more cautious friends.
4. Might be a bit competitive, turning fun into a challenge.
5. Could have trouble with long-term commitments, even in friendships.
6. Others might say: "I find them intelligent, but so naive!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Guys! Watch this!

4. Inspirational - ENTP This Sanguine-Choleric pattern is the devil or is a lawyer, which is more or less the same thing. They will not lose any debate so do not bother trying.
Go and try to marry the following:
Developer; Persuader; Promoter.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Investigator; Enhancer.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Mega witty, but might use sarcasm that is a bit too much.
2. They debate for fun, even when it is not fun for others.
3. Could change their plans on a whim, leaving friends hanging.
4. Might seem a bit disorganized and chaotic to more structured friends.
5. So focussed on ideas they could forget the emotional side.
6. Others might say: "I love them!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Made a lot of people mad and got murdered.

5. Persuader - ENFJ This Choleric-Phlegmatic pattern is the person who is willing to stand in front of a tank in the name of justice, freedom and other cheesy words that protects the rights of the weak. They are great public speakers and are not afraid to speak their mind.
Go and try to marry the following:
Persuader; Promoter; Inspirational. (An SJW enclave!!)
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Agent; Perfectionist.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Crazily empathetic, but might absorb others' emotions like a sponge.
2. Can be so focussed on helping, they forget their own well-being.
3. Might push their beliefs a bit too strongly on friends, including gross interference.
4. Could get overwhelmed by their social circles and commitments, reneg on them and become very narky when held to account.
5. Might put others' needs before their own, to a fault, but get you to do the legwork which they will never do in return.
o 6. Others might say: "I think they are some kind of a loose cannon, but I think I can fix it."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Tried to “change” a serial killer and got fatally stabbed.

6. Appraiser - ESFJ This Sanguine-Melancholic pattern is your kind and rich grandmother. She will spoil and love you and even burn the world for you to protect you from harm. But she will beat you silly with a stick if you get your hand caught in the cookie jar.
Go and try to marry the following:
Director; Results; Achiever.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Specialist; Achiever.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super caring, but might smother friends unintentionally.
2. Might avoid conflict at all costs, leading to unspoken issues.
3. Can be so eager to please, they lose themselves in the process.
4. Could get caught up in others' dramas, forgetting their own needs.
5. Might have a hard time saying "no," even when they should.
6. Others might say: "I cannot understand why others like them."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Died from third degree burns after saving their pets from a house fire.

7. Promoter - ENFP This Sanguine-Phlegmatic pattern are your crazy people who believe in energies, auras and soul-whatevers. They see the world as one living being and are deeply spiritual. They believe there is more to everything (including a piece of rock) than meets the eye.
Go and try to marry the following:
Developer; Perfectionist; Enhancer (We totally disagree.)
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Investigator; Enhancer (What a joke!).
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Enthusiastic and energetic, but have a micro and scattered attention span.
2. Can get super passionate about ideas, even if they change them tomorrow.
3. Might struggle with commitments including bouncing between friends.
4. Could get so caught up in others' lives that they neglect their own.
5. Love the deep talks, but might avoid the practical stuff and will never ever reciprocate so all favours to them must be treated as donations!
6. Others might say: "I love their ideas!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Overdosed on hard drugs while trying to interchange thoughts or feelings with the universe.

8. Counselor - ESFP This Sanguine Pure pattern is the charming happy-go-lucky one who are fun, loud and crowd-pleasing. They light up the room with their presence and are always looking for trouble.
Go and try to marry the following:
Results; Appraiser; Specialist.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Practitioner; Objective Thinker.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super outgoing, but might be a bit impulsive.
2. Could be dramatic and intense, turning up the emotions.
3. They love the spotlight, which could overshadow quieter friends.
4. Might need constant excitement, leaving others exhausted.
5. Could be so focussed on the present that they forget future plans.
6. Others might say: "I feel a bit disappointed, but I will try again. They will warm up to me!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Found dead in an abandoned service station wearing nothing but 3D glasses; no markings or signs of struggle. Death remains a mystery.

9. Specialist - ISFP This Phlegmatic-Sanguine pattern is the one who sees all the beauty in the world and more. They are also very interesting to have as a sexual partner. They probably invented the you only live once culture.
Go and try to marry the following:
Appraiser; Counselor; Practitioner (Really?).
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Director; Appraiser.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Crazily creative, but might get lost in their own world.
2. Could avoid conflict even when it needs to be addressed.
3. Might have mood swings that leave friends a bit confused.
4. Super private, might not open up easily.
5. Might be so chilled out that they seem disinterested, but they are not.
6. Others might say: "I found them fun! But ouch! But fun!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Tried to cure their own illness with witchcraft and failed.

10. Investigator - INFJ This Melancholic-Phlegmatic pattern are saints.
Go and try to marry the following:
Agent; Objective Thinker; Enhancer.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Deep thinkers, which might come off as distant or mysterious. They may transcend traditional categorizations and dichotomies by claiming that knowledge is at once relative and absolute, subjective and objective, temporal and eternal, etc. To the rational mind, which relishes and even relies on such dichotomies, this can be extremely difficult to swallow.
2. They can see potential in people, even when it is not there.
3. Might go missing in action when they are lost in their thoughts.
4. Keep feelings hidden, making it hard for others to gauge what is up.
5. Their idealistic nature might clash with the real world.
6. Others might say: "I do not like them much. But I think they are interesting."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Sacrificed themselves to make a political statement.

11. Agent - INFP This Phlegmatic Pure pattern is the empathic and caring motherly type that wants world peace and to save the starving children in Africa.
Go and try to marry the following:
Persuader; Investigator; Practitioner.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Developer (What a joke); Persuader.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Dreamers for sure, but reality might hit them hard sometimes.
2. Might have ideals that do not match up with the real world.
3. Could get lost in their emotions and need some space.
4. Finds it hard to make decisions when their values are all tangled.
5. Sometimes they are so focussed on others, they forget themselves.
6. Others might say: "Who broke them?"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Procrastinated about an appointment call for too long and died of cancer.

12. Achiever - ISTP This Melancholic-Sanguine pattern are either mad scientists or tradies.
Go and try to marry the following:
Counselor; Specialist; Agent.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Director; Appraiser.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Independent to the max, might seem distant.
2. Their love for adventure could lead to unpredictable plans.
3. Might struggle with commitment, both in plans and emotions.
4. Could be a bit blunt, not always considering feelings.
5. Hard to read sometimes, leaving others wondering what is up.
6. Others might say: "I loved talking about x with them. I am sure they would love to hear the three hour lecture! Where did they go?"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: Died from lung cancer from smoking and did not even try to quit.

13. Practitioner - ISFJ This Phlegmatic-Melancholic pattern is a future recipient for a posthumous award for the Medal of Honour. You can expect them to be loyal as a German Shepherd and bite like them too.
Go and try to marry the following:
Appraiser; Specialist; Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Results; Counselor. Failure guaranteed.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Super caring, but might overextend themselves and feel drained.
2. Can be a bit shy at first, making it tough to break the ice.
3. Will hold onto past stuff, causing unnecessary tension.
4. Struggle to say "no," so boundaries could get blurred especially when criticized or in conflict and easily become passive-aggressive.
5. Could be too focused on others' needs, forgetting their own.
6. Others might say: "I think that they are next to inert."
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: The first person to reach 200 years old and died of a heart attack when they found out that they broke the world record.

14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ This Choleric Pure pattern is what happens when the school nerd becomes a billionaire. They are ultra smart, analytical and dislike horse manure.
Go and try to marry the following:
Investigator; Achiever; Practitioner. We think Enhancer.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. They keep it real, sometimes a little too real.
2. Hard to switch up plans once they are set, so spontaneity might trip them up.
3. Can be all about routines, not always down for wild adventures.
4. Might hold back emotions, making it tough to connect on a deeper level.
5. Their practicality could come off as a bit harsh to others.
6. Others might say: "Um, why are they so slow off the mark?"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They worked themselves to death.

15. Perfectionist - INTP This Phlegmatic-Choleric pattern is someone who wants to find a cure for cancer because they can. They would do what they can to make the world a better place for everyone through innovation.
Go and try to marry the following:
Inspirational; Promoter; Agent.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Developer; Persuader.
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Brilliant minds, but can be lost in thought 24/7. Terrible finishers as there is always a bit more to be done.
2. Might struggle with social cues and small talk.
3. They value their personal space and alone time like crazy.
4. Might debate a point about which they are very interested just for the heck of it, even with friends.
5. Could seem distant, but it is just their thinking face.
6. Others might say: "I though that they were super intelligent, but more like a puppy. What a flake!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: On the one day they decided to go outside, they got hit by a car.

16. Enhancer - INTJ This Melancholic-Choleric pattern are confusing people who say and do different things at any given time. But it works. They are the pattern who would go beyond boundaries to achieve their goal; they probably coined the phrase. The end justifies the means.
Go and try to marry the following:
Agent (You would have to be joking); Investigator; Perfectionist; We think Objective Thinker.
Go and try to have a romance with the following:
Inspirational; Promoter. (Both will be a disaster).
Here are some difficulties that you may find if trying to create a friendship with this pattern. Oh dear! You have found them here; thanks to Oxor™:
1. Full of big ideas, might overlook the little details; will not tolerate small talk.
2. Not the best at emotional stuff, so connecting can be a challenge.
3. Can be stubborn and want things done their way.
4. Might drop some brutally honest truths, even if others are not ready.
5. Sometimes they are just too logical for the touchy-feely stuff.
6. Others might say: "I thought they were so unsocial and showed a total dislike of wishywashy small talk!"
7. Facetious possible cause of the departure from God's Waiting Room™: They had no idea that they had cancer until it was too late.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment A™:

Do you crave someone who is always bursting with ideas? Do innovation, imagination and non-conformity turn you on?

Go and try to date the following:

Promoter; Inspirational; Agent; Perfectionist.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment B™:

Do you crave someone who has an insightful eye into people and situations? Do intense, visionary, big picture people excite you?

Go and try to date the following:

Investigator; Enhancer; Persuader; Developer.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment C™:

Do you crave someone who is energetic, fun-loving and adventurous? Do quick-witted people who live for today turn you on?

Go and try to date the following:

Counselor; Results; Specialist; Achiever.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment D™:

Do you crave someone who is steady, grounded and dependable? Do detail-oriented, down-to-earth people make you feel happiest?

Go and try to date the following:

Practitioner; Objective Thinker; Appraiser; Director.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment E™:

Do you crave someone who follows their heart over following the crowd? Are you attracted to people who have rich and complex understandings of the world and do not mind marching to the beat of their own drum?

Go and try to date the following:

Agent; Specialist; Promoter; Counselor.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment F™:

Do you crave someone who exudes friendliness and consideration? Do you like people who take care of other people’s needs and place a high value on tactfulness and harmony?

Go and try to date the following:

Appraiser; Persuader; Practitioner; Investigator.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment G™:

Do you crave someone who has a logical, pragmatic frame of mind? Do you like people who are direct, decisive and organized?

Go and try to date the following:

Director; Developer; Objective Thinker; Enhancer.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment H™:

Do you crave someone who is as obsessed with truth and understanding as you are? Do you like people who are analytical, curious and precise?

Go and try to date the following:

Achiever; Perfectionist; Results; Inspirational.

Cravings Matcher™ - Introvert intuitives

Craving Segment I™:

Do you have no friends?

The Agent, Investigator, Perfectionist and Enhancer are the most likely to have no friends. Oxor™ has observed cases of all four without friends. We reckon that the Investigator is the most likely to have friends, followed by the Agent with the Enhancer and the Perfectionist the least likely, in that order, in a photo finish.

Cravings Matcher™

Craving Segment J™:

Do very intelligent people go best with a not so intelligent best friend?

With friends, it has been observed that for two people to be good friends, they need to be within one standard deviation of the IQ of each other. For example, if someone has an IQ of 160, standard deviation 15, they can be friends with people with IQs of 145 to 175. Therefore, a very intelligent person will be likely to have a very intelligent person as a best friend.

There is also the issue of a communication range where a person can only really have meaningful and mentally stimulating conversations and interactions with someone within two standard deviations. Therefore, if someone has an IQ of 160, they can only have fun talking to someone with an IQ between 130 and 190.

See also Noetic Explorer™ for more on IQ - Click Here

Charts we have Known™

Charts that may assist you:

Type Relation and Compatibility & Potential Matches - Click Here

Simplified MBTI Chart - Click Here

Special Section for the Enhancer

The Awful Partner Criteria for the Enhancer.

Elizabeth Hunter™, the composer of Oxor™; was interviewed at the Gin Palace by Stratton Oakmont™. Elizabeth is the classic lifetime proven Enhancer; claims she was that when in the womb.

1. A needy partner that requires lots of validation, attention and proof of love. Drop the Persuader, Appraiser, Promoter, Counselor.

2. A controlling partner that needs to know what you are doing, reading, working on and who looks over your shoulder to see what you are reading, watching or writing. Drop the Director.

3. A closed minded partner, one that refuses to see others’ point of view or educate themselves before expressing an opinion or that refuses to acknowledge proof that they are incorrect. This includes when beliefs are confused with facts. These are the Idealists / Social Justice Warriors. Drop the Persuader, Promoter, Investigator, Agent.

4. Dumb; in the sense of lack of know how. Drop the Perfectionist, Agent.

5. A stupid partner. I am smart, but want my partner being more smart. Loves to learn things, loves to mind-flow, a dumber partner can not give these things. Drop the Practitioner who is a follower only.

6. A partner who wants a boss 25/8. While I am strong and independent most of the time, in the relationship' field I hate being “the boss” all of the time. Drop the arty Specialist.

7. A too arrogant partner. I am arrogant a little. There is only room for the one Enhancer and that is me. Drop the Enhancer.

8. A 'Sensor' partner. Hard pass. Yes, all of them except the Objective Thinker. Drop the Director, Appraiser, Results, Counselor, Specialist and Achiever. The Achiever has the worst temper and is always buggering around fixing things or making a battery operated cooking foil dispenser, or similar.

9. An 'Extravert' partner (Patterns 1-8). While they can be exhausting, they are great for self-development and going outside for once. But that is not a relationship.

10. An 'Introvert' except the Objective Thinker. While they are obviously on the same wavelength as me; there is less need for explanations regarding not going outside, but some are problematic when it comes to developing interpersonal skills.

11. Introversion is the most valuable trait in a partner/friend/colleague etc. Totally less need for explanation as to what is going on inside the head. They either know, or they ask good questions - Objective Thinker.

12. The Thinkers can be good, but can become excessive since the Enhancer has both introverted intuition and extroverted thinking.
The Developer is useful but they will not understand that that an Enhancer's work ethic involves regular naps or time alone and would never interact anyway because they would be working 100+ hours per week. Drop.
The Practitioner represents a total stalemate, is a follower and is totally boring. Drop.
The Inspirational is too cool and Machiavellian which makes them problematic. Drop.
The Perfectionist gives me intelligence envy combined with total impatience due to an absence of practical skills. Drop.

13. The Feelers can be great for balance as long as they are not above average in neuroticism. The Practitioner and Agent score very well in complaining and not offering solutions (whiners), plus they are generally miserable.

15. A conclusion, from Oxor™ research, seems to be that the Promoter and the Persuader are a good match. My experience is that Promoters are totally unreliable and have a micro attention span while the Persuader has the propensity to always interfere; both of which I cannot stand. So it is the Objective Thinker that is the one for me.

16. A team of Enhancer / Investigator appears almost unbeatable, except if they are not careful they will have an argument where the Investigator will propose some golden shining thing of perfect morality and the Enhancer will go, “Bulltish, yeah, as if you will ever convince humans to go along with that,” and they will then wind up not speaking to each other.
Alternatively, they will avoid that pitfall and instead talk until they die of starvation or sleep deprivation or until some Sensing person takes pity on them and makes them eat and sleep.

17. The Enhancer does not keep friends, friends keep them. It sounds bad and selfish but it is not. The Enhancer cannot pursue friendships in the way the majority do. They do not call, do not compliment, do not intervene, do not organize, do not invite. But if you are a person they care for and admire, they listen when you call, they help you when you ask and they go when you invite. They do not judge you, do not try to control you, do not put conditions on friendship, are not needy, do not demand your time or attention, are here for you no matter when was the last time they saw you or talked to you and are drama free.