Situation - You want to pick the pattern of the other person.
When someone wants to connect with the other person
it
can be made easier by following these Majik Quirks Connectors™ on this page.
1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?
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The Guardian.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Has strong opinions and insists that they are always correct and can defend their opinion with logic and data.
Micromanager and runs the show.
Decisive.
Hot headed.
Mean.
Stubborn when new ways of doing things are presented.
Overbearing - likes to be in charge - always correct - the know all.
Not rebellious (13/16) unless they find the person giving orders is underqualified or incompetent.
Very bossy. Opinionated. Often short-tempered and lacking patience. [Sensitive people, be aware. It is wise to prioritize the finding of common ground].
Struggles with expressing hurt.
Mannerisms: Most likely to enjoy talking about things they have done/hobbies/places they have been. Probably have a comment / opinion about most things.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - most of the time have no fear, but those times at 2am at the bar when the truths of life start becoming clear hit them really hard.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - definitely difficult.
When bored they daydream.
Contradictions - Novel but traditional.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Trustworthiness 2: Loyalty 3: Honesty 4: Dependability 5: Humour.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Patience, Insights, Empathy, Adventure.
What people think of them - Cat. 3. Oh really? I'll show them what's not to like.
Loathed.
2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?
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The Executive.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Goal and action oriented.
Planner and controller.
Assertive.
Ambitious.
Self-assured / bossy / leader / little patience with inefficiency or disorganization.
Evil.
Stubborn when their new ideas are questioned.
Rebellious (8/16) as do not want to take orders from anyone but themselves.
A force to be reckoned with. It is wise to make it a priority to find common ground to establish your place and earn their respect.
Struggles with expressing sympathy.
Mannerisms: Very determined and have a certain intensity. Definitely above average when it comes to getting things done / meeting their own goals.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - fear only what they cannot control and so never admit to fear and do not talk about it. Everyone just assumes they have no fear, so everyone fears them.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - not persuaded because they do not listen to anyone and do what they were going to do anyway.
When bored they desire a sensory experience. As a result, they hate being bored. They find something to stimulate themselves if they ever reach boredom. This, in turn, takes them out of their boredom. This pattern is highly active (rarely bored by choice). Likely to start playing with nearby objects when bored.
Contradictions - Accommodating but intolerant.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Insights 2: Trustworthiness 3: Dependability 4: Humour 5: Good Listening Skills.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Adventure, Boundaries, No judgment, Generosity.
What people think of them - Cat. 3. Oh really? I'll show them what's not to like.
Bully.
3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?
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The Doer.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Relaxed and calm to the core.
Pragmatic and arrogant.
Fearless.
Has commitment issues / superficial.
Kleptomanic / rule breaker.
Active / sporty / cars / motorcycles / fireworks / music/ party boy / outdoor lover / 'bro'.
Vehicle enthusiast.
Stubborn when it comes to certain information.
Rebellious (7/16) and will implement little shortcuts and rebel against bureaucracy as do not have an innate respect for authority in most cases.
Can be a 'trickster'. Not genuinely a 'warm' person. Sensitive people be aware.
Struggles with expressing fear.
Mannerisms: Immature and obnoxious but somehow in an endearing way.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - say not afraid and actually believe it. It is not true.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - can only be persuaded to do things if you target their ego or convince them that they will be rewarded; they will not do anything if they are threatened or commanded.
When bored they interact with people around them when boring administrative tasks should be being done.
Contradictions - People oriented but insensitive.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Humour 3: Adventure 4: Respect 5: Dependability.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Insights, Guidance and advice, Forgiveness.
What people think of them - Cat. 3. Oh really? I'll show them what's not to like.
Takes absurd risks / daredevil.
4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?
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The Visionary.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Energetic. Can be funny and good with words.
Inspirer and likes challenges.
Innovative and likes to push buttons and boundaries a lot.
Erratic / goofball / insane / like to watch people a lot / poor listener / debater.
Charismatic.
Neglects the more routine tasks.
Untrustworthy / deceptive / manipulative.
Stubborn when it comes to their need for independence and a dislike if someone attempts to hold them back.
Rebellious (1/16) as does not look for common answers to problems. Instead, they hope to pioneer their way as the status quo has no appeal. Rules and traditions are made to be questioned and are the devil’s advocate to any authority who tries to push their agenda onto them.
Very self-assured to the point of being intimidating.
Struggles with expressing fear.
Mannerisms: Smirk. They find humour in everything and often enjoy the bizarre. Like the attention and enjoy shocking people. Cannot sit still or focus for long periods of time.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - say they have no fear to cover their insecurities and they they back it up with good acting.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - will create a situation that is so chaotic from the start, that you question why you ever asked them to do something in the first place.
When bored they interact with people around them when boring administrative tasks should be being done.
Contradictions - Energeitc but lazy.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Trustworthiness 2: Humour 3: Loyalty 4: Honesty 5: Fun.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Guidance and advice, Patience, Helpfulness, Generosity.
What people think of them - Cat. 6. In any random order: OMG - do they hate me? I had better make sure that they do not. Fcuk them for not liking me. Oh really? I will show them what's not to like. They don't like me? Is there something that I am doing wrong? Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Sneaky / liar.
5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?
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The Giver.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Chatty. Looks happy on the outside but can be evident that something is wrong with them; obviously.
Encourager and communicator.
Passionate / empowering.
Jealous.
Good.
Alluring.
Romantic.
Dislikes impersonal analysis (facts).
Stubborn when there is no harmony and when their new ideas are questioned.
Extremely toxic and manipulative.
Not rebellious (12/16) as wants to make a good impression and they like to please others but not at the expense of their values or their dreams.
Very self-assured, organized and responsible. Can be far too forceful, but means well.
Struggles with expressing internal anguish.
Mannerisms: Interfering and inquisitive - asks a lot of questions - definitely more than your average person.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - admit to fear when it helps them connect with other people, otherwise their deep seated fear of not being ccepted remains carefully hidden.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - difficult - have conviction in whatever it is you want to persuade and be open and genuine; trying to hide motives will not work and expect skepticism and be prepared for it.
When bored they desire a sensory experience. As a result, they hate being bored. They find something to stimulate themselves if they ever reach boredom. This, in turn, takes them out of their boredom. This pattern is highly active (rarely bored by choice). Likely to start playing with nearby objects when bored.
Contradictions - Accepting but judgmental.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1:Empathy 2: Loyalty 3: Dependability 4: Good Listening Skills 5: Honesty.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Adventure, Practical support, Guidance and advice.
What people think of them - Cat. 1. OMG - do they hate me? I had better make sure that they do not.
Embellishes the truth / exaggerates / a liar - bloggosphere says the most likely.
6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ
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The Caregiver.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Sometimes they are too dumb because have too much pity on people who do not deserve their kindness.
Personable and helpful.
Generous.
Everyone's friend / needs to be liked.
Social conduct very important.
Stubborn when there is no harmony.
The soccer mum / serves others.
Not rebellious (16/16) as a practical, active and productive peacemaker. They respect and easily conform to rules and rule-makers and do not stray from the conventional. They are authentic, conscientious, well-organized and seldom get into trouble.
Extremely warm, welcoming and nice. Wants to cook you a meal.
Struggles with expressing resentment.
Mannerisms: Always laughing with people and often laughing at themselves.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - fear that no one has fun at their parties, or no one likes their cookies or they are not good enough hosts. Even though they do not admit this, it becomes obvious by their constant questions of “Are you having fun?”
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - are people pleasers and can be manipulated effectively with both positive and negative reinforcement, especially if you target their feelings or their sense of belonging.
When bored they daydream.
Contradictions - Generous but needy.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Trustworthiness 2: Loyalty 3: Honesty 4: Dependability 5: Humour.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Patience, Insights, Empathy, Adventure.
What people think of them - Cat. 1. OMG - do they hate me? I had better make sure that they do not.
Gossiper.
7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?
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The Inspirer.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Drama queen but lovely and adorable. Moody but their mood is easily lifted up. Bright personality.
Supportive and starts new projects but never finishes them.
Encourager / empowering.
Creative.
Cheerful.
Clumsy.
Excited by new ideas, but bored with details.
Childish / impulsive / reckless.
Stubborn when something does not align with their morality.
Rebellious (2/16) as they naturally question everything and rather enjoy being non-conformist, different and unconventional.
The owner of a huge heart. A 'softie' inside.
Struggles with expressing sadness.
Mannerisms: Very over the top when it comes to emotional expression, interests, humour, etc. Flamboyant. Quirky. Many, many different interests and hobbies. Loves to talk hypotheticals and ask a lot of questions. Complains that they forgot something or that they feel scatter-brained. Highly creative.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - admit to middling size fears to distract everyone from their deep, untouchably horrible fears, the ones that keep them up at night.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - not likely to be persuaded by peer pressure or conformity to a group, but they are probably more likely to be persuaded to do something if it seems cool or interesting or if they really want to know what the outcome will be.
When bored they explain something to an imaginary person.
Contradictions - Sociable but independent.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Honesty 2: Dependability 3: Loyalty 4: Fun 5: Humour.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Insights, Patience, Adventure.
What people think of them - Cat. 6. In any random order: OMG - do they hate me? I had better make sure that they do not. Fcuk them for not liking me. Oh really? I will show them what's not to like. They don't like me? Is there something that I am doing wrong? Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Totally and magnificently unreliable with difficulty staying put together.
8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP
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The Performer.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Life of the party. Super easy going during bad situations.
Demonstrates common sense and helps in tangible ways.
Charasmatic.
Flirty.
Great kisser.
Extremely unpredictable / impulsive.
The origial drama queen.
Dislikes theory and impersonal analysis (facts).
Stubborn when something does not align with their morality.
Not rebellious (10/16) While they hate strict rules and regulations, they will quickly change careers, relationships or locations if they feel that they are being micro-managed or limited.
Driven by both feelings and sensory experiences.
Struggles with expressing despair.
Mannerisms: Really outgoing, friendly, bubbly.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - say they have no fear when they are with their friends or after a few beers at a party. They do not really believe themselves though.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - will only do something if you convince them that it is fun or if it aligns with their personal values. You cannot impose group values on them because they do not care about what other people value and will just become indifferent.
When bored they explain something to an imaginary person.
Contradictions - Bold but sensitive.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Empathy 3: No Judgment 4: Humour 5: Positivity.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Practical support, Patience, Guidance and advice.
What people think of them - Cat. 2. Fcuk them for not liking me.
Wants to be the centre of attention.
9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP
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The Artist.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Indie guy type. Ask them for movie recommendations.
Likes practical and personal environment.
Sensitive.
Lover of art / aesthetics / beauty.
Emotionally unstable / moody.
Not interested in leading or controlling others.
Stubborn when something does not align with their morality.
Nor so rebellious (9/16) but, for example, will wear a style that their own cultural group frowns upon. They need to be free to be themselves and can sometimes be seen to be a true rebel at heart.
Nice, gentle; natural children’s worker or veterinary assistant.
Struggles with expressing fury.
Mannerisms: Come across as fairly odd/unique.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - are afraid of a lot, but their fears are complicated and usually become less intense with physical activity. Most people only hear the inconsequential things that they let them hear.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - get straight to the point and make sure you have logical reasons to back up your claims.
When bored they think through ideas or theories that they have learned.
Contradictions - Idealistic but practical.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Empathy 2: Honesty 3: Loyalty 4: Fun 5: No Judgment.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Patience, Helpfulness, Insights.
What people think of them - Cat. 2. Fcuk them for not liking me.
Extremely unpredictable.
10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?
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The Protector.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Talks a lot for an introvert. Sometimes a drama queen. Good listener.
Seeks cooperation and intellectional stimulation.
Perceptive.
Diverse.
Strong minded / determined / will persevere.
Eco-friendly.
Fault finding.
Stubborn when there is no harmony amd when their new ideas are questioned.
Well-developed value systems with strict adherence / empowering.
Not rebellious (11/16) but crave freedom and have no problem taking individual initiative. Their vision can lead them down paths that are non-conformist or shocking to others.
Struggles with expressing abandonment.
Mannerisms: Combination of being kind and receptive to people, but also sort of distant; private. The paradox.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - readily admit their fears for other people, but often do not talk about their own till it is too late.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - can sometimes be guilted into doing things, but the best way to convince them to do something is if you can convince them that it is for the good of the group or it will maintain social harmony.
When bored they think in-depth about theories.
Contradictions - Strong but fragile.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Trustworthiness 2: Loyalty 3: Empathy 4: Honesty 5: No Judgment.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Adventure, Helpfulness, Guidance and advice, Practical support.
What people think of them - Cat. 4. They do not like me? Is there something that I am doing wrong?
Often in some sort of internal turmoil.
11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?
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The Idealist.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Irrational but adorable. Their tough is funny and sweet. Difficult to get mad at.
Dreamer and values personal growth but never gets there.
Sincere / empowering.
Loser.
Gloomy.
'Vegeterian'.
Poetic / reflective / nostalgic / good writer.
Complainer but never gets around to taking well defined action.
Stubborn when there is no harmony and when something does not align with their morality.
Rebellious (5/16) in the sense that see themselves as different, non-conventional and non-conforming.
Seemingly detached, yet warm-hearted.
Struggles with expressing affection.
Mannerisms: Quiet, yet subtly vocal about what they care about.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - have fears, but their fears are so complex that few people understand them and even fewer get the chance. They also smokescreen the truth with generic answers.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - will only do something if it aligns with their values or if it pertains to someone they are close to.
When bored they consume familiar media - old songs etc.
Contradictions - Timid but brave.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: No Judgment 3: Empathy 4: Trustworthiness 5: Respect.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Insights, Generosity, Guidance and advice, Boundaries.
What people think of them - Cat. 2. Fcuk them for not liking me.
Basically resides in La La Land.
12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?
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The Mechanic.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Laid back. Living the life.
Understands how things work.
Tactical.
Logical.
Cannot stand art / participates in extreme sport.
Bad tempered / unpredictable.
Stubborn when it comes to their need for space and independence.
Not overly concerned with respecting laws and rules if they get in the way of getting something done.
Rebellious (4/16) when told that they cannot do what they want to do, will move mountains to prove others wrong, no matter which rules need breaking. Are skeptical about others’ intentions and insist on being themselves even if it causes friction.
Inspector Gadget. Wilderness survivalist.
Struggles with expressing anxiety.
Mannerisms: Cool onlooker. Quiet, reserved, observing and analyzing life with detached curiosity and unexpected flashes of original humour.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - might actually have no fear, but they do not talk about existential things like that, much less think about them, except at the bar, so you will not hear about it.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - will either leave if they do not want to do something or purposely sabotage everything to make you leave them alone and never bother them again.
When bored they fantasize but not necessarily about sex.
Contradictions - Stubborn but easygoing.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Honesty 3: Humou 4: Trustworthiness 5: Dependability.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Helpfulness, Forgiveness, Positivity.
What people think of them - Cat. 5. Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Fixes anything.
13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?
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The Nurturer.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: The caring grandma / grandpa material. Sometimes they are too dumb because have too much pity on people who do not deserve their kindness.
Inclusive caretaker who enjoys helping others.
Thoughtful.
Totally family oriented.
Unlucky. Nervous regarding ramance.
Rusted onto the past / values security and tradition / totally lacks vision.
Stubborn when it comes to their beliefs, morals and standards.
Holds grudges for life.
Not rebellious (14/16) as is a rule follower, not a breaker. Like things comfortable and stable.
Nice, gentle, not threatening in any way. But may 'ghost' you to avoid anything resembling confrontation.
Struggles with expressing resentment.
Mannerisms: Very naturally in tune with others and are pretty skilled at small talk. Have a strong ability to fit in everywhere and talk to everyone.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - admit to fears all the time so as to be relatable and unimpressive, but their real fears, the ones that mess with them most, are those they have for others.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - can be made to do anything if they are told that it is important, if threatened, asked nicely or commanded or persuaded in any other way.
When bored they think in-depth about theories.
Contradictions - Imaginative but grounded.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Empathy 3: No Judgment 4: Trustworthiness 5: Honesty.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Guidance and advice, Adventure, Boundaries.
What people think of them - Cat. 1. OMG - do they hate me? I had better make sure that they do not.
Impotent at managing and leading.
14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?
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The Duty Fulfiller.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Consistent and the family man. Simple and sweet.
Hardworker with practical judgment.
Detail is king.
Perfectionistic / goal oriented.
Loves rules / inflexible / biased.
Skeptical.
Neat.
Frugal.
Stubborn, especially when it comes to things that they want.
Not rebellious (15/16) as they prefer to follow the rules; the most obedient of the 16; organized and predictable.
Is like a member emergency services personnel or the military - hyper-responsible, hyper-dependable.
Struggles with expressing vulnerability.
Mannerisms: Come across as very well put together.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - are afraid of not being able to classify their fears.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - provide verifiable facts and concrete details if you want to win their trust.
What people think of them - Cat. 5. Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Contradictions - Modest but proud.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Trustworthiness 3: Honesty 4: Good Listening Skills 5: Dependability.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Patience,Positivity, Adventure.
When bored they become in touch with their emotions a bit, but do not reveal this.
Awkward / boring toward strangers.
15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?
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The Thinker.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Wide knowledge and can talk about anything. Curious. Grammar nazi.
Original thinker and problem solver.
Unconventional.
Genius.
Socially awkward.
Bookworm.
Hates the outdoors.
Geek / nerd / pessimistic.
Absent minded.
No interest in leading or following others.
Rebellious (4/16) as questions authority and tradition. Cares more about following the truth and seeking out answers to their questions than they care about obeying rules or 'fitting in'.
A jerk. Can act as if they do not care because that is probably correct.
Struggles with expressing affection.
Mannerisms: Very neutral in the face. Very easy going and non-judgmental.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - are afraid of both nothing and everything. They have great powers of delusion so they are capable of telling themselves they have no fears and actually believing it. Crack their self-absorption a little bit and they are a mess. They will probably only talk about fear as a chemical process or as a philosophy of human psychology.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - will eventually give in if you harass them to the point where they are so annoyed with you that they will do something just to make you stop bothering them.
When bored they consume familiar media - old songs etc.
Contradictions - Smart but naive.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Honesty 2: Trustworthiness 3: Loyalty 4: Respect 5: Humour.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Helpfulness, Adventure, Patience, Generosity.
What people think of them - Cat. 5. Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Zero mechanical aptitide.
16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?
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The Scientist / Architect.
First Blush™ - an Oxor™ ez to c™ idea: Smart and a very hard worker. Rational. Can be both adored and loathed.
Selfish and driven by own ideas to improve anything.
Strategizer.
Loner.
Snob.
Cannot stand children.
Mastermind.
Has massive trouble trusting others.
Stubborn when their new ideas are questioned.
Natural leaders, but will follow but only if they trust and respect existing leaders.
Rebellious (6/16) as rank means little while vision and strategic capability mean everything. Are simultaneously responsible and serious about their duties and obligations while insisting on being themselves even if it causes friction.
Has very high standards for theirs and others' performance.
The ice queen.
Struggles with expressing affirmation.
Mannerisms: Very limited facial expressions and tones.
Bravado - Not Afraid Gauge™ - might actually not be afraid of anything. Underneath they usually they have one that is incredibly well-thought out and well-defined that forms part of the foundation of their life.
Persuadability Likelihood™ - an Oxor™ concept - the brick wall. The answer is 'no' so what was your question?
When bored they become in touch with their emotions a bit, but do not reveal this.
Contradictions - Confident but insecure.
What Highly Desired in a Friend™: 1: Loyalty 2: Trustworthiness 3: Honesty 4: Respect 5: Dependability.
What Spurned in a Friend™: Generosity, Helpfulness, Guidance and advice, Adventure.
What people think of them - Cat. 5. Their opinion is irrelevant to me.
Ultra difficult to know.